I'm feeling trapped between two brick walls. Feeling sick about going back to work and not even feeling happy at home.

[whatsitallabout]

House is a mess I'm a mess I'm panicking because I can't see a way out. Can't think straight. Don't know what to do. Worried about finances but I'm spending money I haven't got. Looking after my elderly mam but really can't cope with it or anything else. I've been to drs and I'm on tablets but my heads just not straight. I hate my life and I don't know which way to turn. Sick note is finished this week but I really can't face work but I'm scared I'm gonna lose my job but at the same time I'm not bothered because life is so crap it doesn't matter. Trapped .

[Hidden]

HI What x Oh dear sounds like this is a lot playing on your mind all at once x Dont worry about a messy house, we all have one now and then and its something that if you can live with it as in no ocd etc x it can be left until your in the right frame of mind and sorted x I often have days when i do the essentials and sod the rest x Finances are a hard one, as if you are over spending it can cause probs, but its easily done when your feeling down and can make us feel so good we carry it on x But maybe on this you can ask for some help via counsellor etc ? x It can be a huge pressure looking after an elderly relative, and a counsellor could help you talk though these problems to x I would recommend going back to your gp and asking for the additional help of therapy , dont worry about work to much at the mo you need to get sorted first x Therapy can make the world of difference x Donver x

[whatsitallabout in reply to Hidden]

Ive had therapy and have just been referred again am waiting for an appointment. Am going back to gp tomorrow to speak to them and I'm worried about my mental health and how it feels worse. These anxiety attacks are bad. Feel like im going out of my mind and just want to cry all the time. So tired and want to be the old me again. The one who can cope and is happy I absolutely hate life at this moment in time.

[marmar12]

Stress can make things worse so only take on stuff when u feel strong enough to handle it, caring can be hard as you need to be cared for too. Dont worry too much about work ,get another sick note and take one day at a time.Try to do stuff you enjoy like a walk in the park, have a relaxing bath,get your hair done see friends they are important make sure you eat properly all the best

[whatsitallabout in reply to marmar12]

All good advice but couldn't think straight today didn't want to see anyone or even have the energy to get ready or eat or anything. Thank you for your words though it's good to know people are out there.

[whatsitallabout]

I'm listening. But be sat here all day hardly able to breath still in pjs got no energy. I did speak to someone this morning because I didn't know which way to turn. My head is hurting with all the thoughts going through it. They said I should go back to my go and ask for another sick note as thinking bout going to work is increasing my anxiety. But what if they sack me but if I can get a sick note and the pressure of going back to work is off then it may help in me being able to think straight and sorting all the thoughts in my head out. Im worried they think I'm having a laugh but how I'm feeling is no joke.

[jag_anne in reply to whatsitallabout]

We forget that the thoughts going through our heads are just thoughts. We are the creator of our thoughts although our thoughts seem very real and predict usually a negative out come, although most of what we imagine never ever happens, by changing our thoughts we can have a different perspective. I usually find that if you are finding life difficult it means you have an amazing imagination. Wow thats a talent in its self. What would happen if you used your imagination and imagined everything going right. We are 70% more likely to look at the negative outcome. Have you ever read Feel the fear and do it anyway? Its an excellent book. Fear keeps you stuck exactly where you are no action means the fear grows. You do not know this yet but you have the power inside you to stop and take action to create a different outcome. Be kind to yourself in this moment all we have is moments the past is the past we can not change it. The future is full of possibilities this moment is the only moment you have and its always this moment. sending love and energy to a person with an amazing imagination. X