Feel so sick like I'm not go ing to surrive

[imamess]

Hi I feel so scared by my mental health cannot stop crying work have offered me a job which I don't want yo take because I'm feeling terrified I hate the hours split shifts 7-9 3-6 and holiday club 7-6.I hate the age group older children I only like preschool children I'm due to start tommorow but I can't stop crying I feel like my life has gone I'm feeling trapped, horrified,suicidal all I have done this weekend is cry in bed

[Forestina]

How awful. I really think you need to speak to somebody about the job. I realise money may be a crucial factor and it is easy to say that no job is worth the aguish you are going through, but I t may help to talk to someone who can constructively help and even suggest a compromise.

I am undergoing similar problems so I do have an idea of just how hard it can be.

My thoughts are with you. You WILL get through this.

[imamess in reply to Forestina]

Thank you for replying you're absolutely right I'm neglecting everything I love doing as I'm feeling terrified and in tears .my health is really suffering I don't need this job I had been doing bank staff prior so no guaranteed hours but still managed and preferred bank staff as could chose when to accept and was preschool age.I only accepted to.make them happy but sm taking my anxiety out on people I love puppy,family. I can't stop crying feel so trapped like suicidal is better than this I would accept if was 7 to one or one to 6 but director is so rude doesn't understand anxiety

[abqam]

Sorry that you are going through this. No job is permanent and you can always try to see if they will change the assignment. You will be surprised how sometimes people will work with you and understand if you ask. You can also not take the job if that is an option.

Treat to tomorrow as temporary, just a test to see how it goes. Treat the job as just a temporary stepping stone until you get a different one. You are not trapped!

If you need to talk to someone immediately call a help line or call family or a close friend. Seek help you are not alone. Google "mental health hot line" there is 24/7! Post some more, action sometimes helps.

[imamess]

Thank you so much for replying might phone a help line althp can't stop crying .I asked the other day and apparantlru director said its ridiculous I want to work preschool

[abqam]

Some people do not understand. If you do not need the job immediately, maybe you can just let them know that after reflection, you realize the job is not right for you and not take the job after all. Don't do it to please THEM if it gives you this much misery. Make a plan right now on getting a different job that will not stress you out like this is.

Again, don't feel trapped, because you are not!

Things seem much worse when we get all worked up. Take some really slow deep breaths, think about all the positive things around. You mentioned a puppy in your life, bring him/her in and let him/her love you. Let him/her take you out for a walk! Pay attention to what he/she is looking at and try to figure out what he/she might be thinking about. Hopefully that will cheer you up and get your mind settled a bit. Bring your family in. Post some more to get your brain out of the slump. You are OK!

[imamess]

Thank you so much for your reply what you have put is exactly right,I need to decline this job its making me so upset I'll and stressed I feel so sick,I've started looking for other jobs

[abqam]

Hope you are feeling better! Don't make yourself sick over the job. It is not worth it. Hopefully looking for that new job is helping you out of your bad feelings. Keep working at it and you will pull through. Life can be hard if we let it be. You will find a better job very soon! Keep posting if you get discouraged and don't let things like this get you down and remember you are not trapped!

[imamess]

Thank you going to be brve and tell then this morning what's the worse that can happen I'm.unemoyef for bit

[imamess]

Hi I've woken up crying again

[abqam]

It is hard. Hang in there. You can do it, You will be OK. You will feel better after you get going and talk to them. Remember that you ARE in control. Good luck today!

[imamess]

Hi I sole to manager agreed to do bank staff still.at first manager was so childish and immature ignoring Mr being annoyed with me accepting last week

[abqam]

so things are better?

[imamess in reply to abqam]

Hi a bit yes although manager was in a mood atfirxt