Is it normal to lack social confidence

following on to my previous questions is it normal to be unable to be socially active following a life time of lifes problems which have left me in a state of near constant anxiety

as previously mentioned the GP was a waste of time

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Hi

Yes it is very normal to lack confidence & self esteem which I think are the same or very similar when we have anxiety !

I have to work on mine all the time

Someone told me to start looking through the mirror everyday & say you are ok even when I didn't believe it till I did !

There is a post I pinned to the right of the page about self esteem , if you haven't have a little read as there maybe some things that might help you

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HI Dil x I think its completely normal to be lacking in social activity when you have problems yes. I have always had some form of anxiety since being very young and it has affected me in a lot of ways that have lead to me being socially in active. I find it hard to get into conversations and to actually make the initial move to strike up a friendship. Once in a friendship I tend to find I turn down invitations to do things as it could make me uncomfortable, such as meals out, in a restaurant would be daunting as I would feel I was under watch x Yet on here I can be me, I don't have to hide behind a persona or try to fit in, I accept that people will either like me or not, but if they do, its me the real me they like, and it actually boost my confidence and self esteem. So if you can chat more and join in, we are not the cure but we can help in any ways we can and you will have many fiends here who you can be to some degrees social with x DOnver x

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just as I feel

[BlueCobra33]

I would say that what you are describing was definately "normal", is it a case of wanting to be social but get concerned and anxious over what you may or may not do right\wrong what the other people may think etc? It is always going to be hard to be confident when your in a state of anxiety, otherwise you wouldnt be in a state of panic. Small steps at a time and try not to think yourself as being "not normal" - while you are thinking this it is going to hold you back more. tiny positive steps and you can get to where you wanna be, believing it is the first and biggest step. Good luck. I know you will recieve a lot of good advice from people from here, I know I have and it has been most helpful.

[auralius]

yes it is and most comedians and actors suffer from it, the difference is that they have trained themselves to overcome it and you have not which is the same as most of us,,have you ever thought of how many actors drink, take drugs or commit suicide ? the've got pots of money in the bank but they still fall into the abyss of despair, the best thing you could do is to join your local theatre group and instead of allowing the anxiety to control you, use your anxiety to go on to better things and act out your dreams.