Done it

[scoobyd]

Well I did it had a complete meltdown I hate it no storage space too small and claustrophobic. So it looks a mess with all my stuff in so I'm staying with my sister in law. Not even going there

[Hidden]

Hi scoobyd

So I take it you have moved but dont like the new house ?

Can your sister in law put you up for long does she have the space ?

Is this a rented house that if she can let you stay there you could look for another one that is bigger

Maybe when you get used to the shock of having to move , you might look round the house again & see it differently & when things are unpacked & you have arranged them it always looks different

At least you are safe , thats the main thing

Glad you did a post I was wondering how you were

Love

whywhy

xxx

[Hidden]

Well done for going first off x Im sure once you have moved your things about and made it home it will be lovely xx I know its hard to adjust and it will seem really odd to start with but it will soon become home xx Think positive and instead of to small say cosy x instead of no storage say reason to de clutter xx I hope it becomes a happy home for u xx Donver xx

[scoobyd in reply to Hidden]

Ha thanks people. I can't living in a small space its far too small. It's a rented house yes and my anxiety is really bad lots of my family helped me but it's not the same as my friends. I went back to my old home to help move I sobbed my heart out. I know I will never like it .

[Hidden in reply to scoobyd]

Give yourself time hun ,this has come as a shock to you & with anxiety we struggle with changes , take it a day at a time

It is a form of grieving for what you have lost & we have to go through the pain till we come out the other end & accept the changes & you will , give yourself time

xxx

[Hidden]

hi there,

I was thinking about you today and your move. I know the feeling and it all feels to much, I cried as well when I was forced to give up my place, so I do understand how you are feeling.

it's good that you are at your sister in laws, give your self a rest from it all for now, the main think is you and you son are safe that is the main thing for now. One day at a time for now even hour by hour if you have to okay.

It's all been a rush and shock for you, so try and be kind to yourself for a bit, you have been strong to do it in the first place and we are all here for you.

Gardener x

[scoobyd]

Thanks and to top it all one of my son's friends phoned before and said he was there drunk and wanted to speak to me as if that's the last thing I want. When he won't hand himself in it just couldn't get any worse today

[Hidden in reply to scoobyd]

Scoobyd , I no this is hard for you & what you are going through & you no I understand

You gave your son a chance & this is what has happened

I no its not easy but for your sake you have to let him go as you cant help him any more , its up to him now

You need to stay strong for the rest of your family hun

xxx

[scoobyd]

I am trying really I'm trying for my son he's cried today too it sounds like I've got it really bad and I know there's millions of people worse off than me but at the time you just don't care I've got to lift myself out of it I've also left my dog until I get sorted it being looked after but I worry it will be confused too. I'm sorry to keep going on but u all help me get through it one day I will post something positive x

[Hidden in reply to scoobyd]

Your pain is your pain & we can only feel what we are going through at the time & no matter how much we might sympathize what others are going through we cant feel it , we can only feel what we are suffering , so you have no need to apologize for that or for posting because you are struggling !

I have every confidence that we will see a positive post from you in the future , meanwhile share how you feel now & even if we don't have the answers , we will listen

xxx

[Hidden]

Hi Scoobyd.

Oh what a terrible time your having at the moment, you know we are all here to give you support in any way we can. Maybe if you get your stuff unpacked it might help bring some order to your life. You have shown great courage so far and I'm sure you will make it.

{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}} Kenny xx

[Jeffju]

I hate changes too and feel comfortable when I am in my own surroundings.

Moving house is just about top of the most stressful things in life... so is stressful for most people , let alone people like us who are already in various states of stress and anxiety.

You will miss your old house and everything that is familiar but there must be some positives about the new house otherwise you wouldn't have chosen it . Try and remember what they were and this may help.

Go and have another look and see how you feel.

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}} to you at this time, Love Julie xx

[scoobyd in reply to Jeffju]

I didnt choose it I had no choice I had to move for my safety

[Jeffju]

Oh I am sorry then. I didn't know and hope that I haven't upset you. Julie xx