In the light of the last few days I really think the damage has been done. For me personally I can't trust any noobs as I'm just going to think that everyone is out to deceive, I may hang about A few more days but I think my time on here is growing to an end. I've made some good friends on here, in fact I've made a really good friend on here who has kept me going the last few months, and another good friend who has acted more like a mum to me and has gave me some right good advice, but unfortunately I've lost that due to some right nasty trolls.
Anyway I hope this forum can get back to the way it was when I was at my lowest and it helped me out some dark places, for that I will always be thankful.
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It is a shame Ashley and we are all a good person down, I know we are going to be wary but we really cannot cast aside all the newcomers who maybe in positions we once where, we are all a little wiser thanks tot he help of some very good people on here and we need to carry that on x As i have said to why x if the need to go has overcome the need to stay its time to fly xx xx I hope you do stay xx
Ashley, stick around a bit longer. things should settle down.
if you see anything against the hu guidelines - e.g. not showing respect for others, or naming or shaming anyone, then hit the report button - this goes to hu and they should act on it.
not for a while when something to do with funding x now you can come on and do what you like and say what you like, we had one member leave due to stalking !!
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I have been emailing Health Unlocked head office and they do get the messages. They said they are currently in the process of getting admins for the site so please stay Ashley. Or go to the NZ site where there are admins. Quite a few of us are there at the moment. I think the troll has come back as Tudor55 so watch out.
It's very unsettling Ashley, but also very uncommon. It unsettled me for a while the last time & it's not nice to think you have been duped by someone. But, most here are very kind & welcoming & I'm sure if you give it a bit of time you'll feel differently.
Seeing that I am pretty new,hello first of all. I understand everyone saying to stay but a place for anxiety support and you get what you got only adds to that anxiety. Can't let fake, unimportant people help dictate yourself. There will always be people to try and bring others to the same crappy bed they lie in. It's up to you to let them live in their solitude and empty lives. Keep your head up, eyes open, and mind aware.
please don't leave... at least, don't leave on account of one or two idiots who don't know how to behave. Leave for you - not them - because that means they've won. Otherwise stay.
Hey, I've just scrolled down the posts and noticed that whywhy's name and pic have gone grey again...meaning she's deleted her account. I didn't realise...
Did something happen last night that I didn't know about? I didn't come online. I was home for the weekend so spent last night with family and then went to bed early(ish).
I've just noticed too Faye but I've no idea what's happened.
Thanks for yr msg. I'm all over the place today, physically not mentally for a change but I'll reply soon. Hope you're ok.
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I don't know if I was to say anything or not...don't think she wanted a fuss.
I think she felt she just didn't want to put herself through this anymore...she wouldn't put up with this sort of thing in the real world and I think she just thought it was time to go.
Her decision, so I've choose to respect it.
Xx
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Yes whywhy has gone again, not because of what anyone has done at all but more for her own sake x She went without fuss as she felt a little guilty that she came back and then as soon as she did wanted to go again x It was her decision and we respect that x This is a site for anxiety and if a person feels its making there's worse then its time to get out and concentrate on getting better x
Although I'm gutted (in the sense that I'll miss her). She has big boots to fill but I am trying my best to fill them, although I can't here all the time, I have other commitments and responsibilities to attend to (which hopefully a positive should come out of at the end of it - with a psychology degree I might be better equipped to helping you all).
Whywhy was always the first to reply. From my observations it seems that when Whywhy isn't here not everyone's post gets answered (it seems she always has, of sorts, an answer).
I know it's tough for us all, but I don't want anyone getting left out, I really don't, so if we see a post that hasn't been answered...even if we don't hold the solution... I think we should respond - at the least, saying we've read the post, that we care and we're wishing them well. I know it's hard, but we need to try. Whywhy took a lot (I'm not saying all), the responsibility for 'giving' of the site - more of us to could 'take' I suppose - pure and simple: that was the reason for her popularity, this is also why she was considered a maternal figure.
Now she has left, it's up to us to redistribute the balance, because we don't have the safety net of admin workers helping when no one else will answer - OR Whywhy.
We USE the site and we're entitled to of course, to help us cope with our anxiety - but we also MAKE the site and are the site and it will only (continue to?) disintegrate if we don't try to contribute. We have big boots to fill but they can be easily filled if we do together.
Let's be strong.
Obviously I'm gutted for my own reasons. Me and Whywhy got on well - sending pm's and and confided in each other a few times. You will be very much missed.
I just wanted to clarify that I didn't mean anything by what I said above - I wasn't trying to criticise or point the finger or anything like that. (although I understand maybe my wording isn't clear - especially the final paragraph I know how easy it is to misinterpret things online - It's slightly more eloquently written in the post I wrote afterwards.) I understand we need a break from the site as too much stimulation can increase anxiety levels. (Ashley you might change your mind - and have a clearer head if you take a few days away from the site and come back. It's up to you.)
I was literally just saying, if and when we're on, and see a post that no one has replied to it makes all the difference just to respond so the person knows they have been listened to and acknowledged. 'No act of kindness, however small, ever goes to waste'. Plus, if we work together to support each other no single person is responsible, a little bit of team work goes a long way, and it makes it easier for people to take a break if they need to.
I think your final point is well put. It's a much happier place if we're all together.
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xx I hope you do stay xx
Bee good..(apologies to ET)
Don't lose hope that you can beat anxiety
So guys, WHAT HAVE I MISSED?!
