Moving on...

[Blorengia]

I haven't been around this site for very long, I'm not one of the Old Timers, but I just need to put forward this point of view:

I appreciate there's been some trouble over the last couple of days. I don't understand exactly what's happened but it was obviously serious enough to drive away a couple of important members (and maybe some others) who have always been supportive within the group and that is very sad. I do hope that they'll feel able to return at some point as they are greatly valued.

BUT

This group has over 4000 members and some of those visit infrequently and won't understand the bad vibes they may pick up on in here. Newer posters need support and responses to their problems and questions - They don't need to come here and see some people raking over past troubles that have occurred - That's unsettling for everyone, new and old. All this stuff about "What's happened?", "Tell me this...", "Where has everyone gone?", "This site is not the same any more" etc is not going to do anything to help new members or those who read, but post rarely.

Can we all now do our best to pull together and get into calmer waters? - By responding to new posts as best we can to help. For those who want details of what's happened and wish to discuss it with others on the site may I politely suggest that it's done behind closed doors with PMs so as not to spread further alarm and despondency on this board.

Peace and hugs to all.

Blorengia

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Good evening Blorengina,

You put everything so succinctly. I agree with all your comments.

I know I may have not been as diplomatic in my post on Sunday, but my thoughts are the same, seeing the posts and the idea of the site being torn apart for what.

We as a group are spending to much time and effort on this. The ones that are suffering are the newer members both Why Why and Winter would welcome them as they did me, I got support and help from both.

Yes we should move on, but all of us need to do it, the sniping has been going on all day through many posts. I hope others will read this and give the site their support. I mentioned in one of my earlier posts maybe we as a group should police the site ourselves.

1b4bed

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I agree and from now on we will all move forward and support our new and old members xx

[Blorengia]

There are about 5 topics running at the moment and they're all discussing/referring to what's been happening. I feel that this is just adding fuel to the flames. The people who create turmoil like this thrive on the disturbance they cause and enjoy all the extra angst they manage to create.

I wish everyone would just stop posting about it.

That's my last word on the situation. I refuse to engage any further about it all. I'll be taking my own advice...

Moving on...

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Well said,let's all move on,and yes police the site ourselves.

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And personally I no longer want to impose on the NZ site,we were made very welcome but wether it is one of my anxiety problems or not I feel we are using the site for our own use so I will need to stay on this site.A big great thank you to WhyWhy for looking for me a few weeks ago,as usual she was thinking of other people not herself,I think a lot more of her for that and will never forget she took time to do that,that is what a truly thoughtful person does and for someone she has never met.She does more and above on this site and I for one will be forever grateful.

[Blorengia]

Many sites have the facility where you can block a specific member if they're causing you grief - it means that they can't contact you and you don't see any of their posts. I can't help but think that would be a useful tool on this site - and I wonder why it's not available.