Holidays

[perrytan]

Hi does anyone get a fear of going on holidays I feel physically sick the thought of going away its not that I don't want to go I do I just get all these horrible feelings I haven't been away for 10 years because of it and me and my husband argue over it because he wants to go away I just want my life back

[teajay]

I am better about it now... but there were many years that I didn't go away with my husband on holidays... It did get easier when I started taking antidepressants and if we were going somewhere I'd never been or felt anxious I'd take Xanax before even leaving the house. I started off with small trips... an hour or so away from home... My husband and I ended up splitting up but I kept going on Holidays. I have a friend who treated me to two vacations, one to France and one to Italy. If anyone had told me that I'd be able to fly from San Francisco to Europe and love it..... years ago I'd say crazy, no way... but am happy to say that it happened. These days I will have a few moments of anxiety when planning to go far away.. but it doesn't last and doesn't prevent me from going.

I hope you can practice taking tiny steps towards going on some holidays. Are you taking medication... just curious.

[perrytan in reply to teajay]

Hi tea jay thankyou for your reply I have said to my husband about going somewhere close to start of with but he says to me what's the difference going somewhere close and going somewhere further he doesn't understand how it effects me yes I'm on medication but it dosnt stop me from getting anxious

[Hidden in reply to perrytan]

Hi Perrytan.....I've always got very anxious about taking a holiday. At the same time I'm longing to get away and get a real break because deep down I know it will do me good. It always takes a lot of careful planning to minimize crowded areas, noise etc but I'm always fine once I get there. I usually need to take Diazepam for a day or two before we go and then on the day of travel take a small dose also. it takes the fear and anxiety away long enough for me to get from A-B. I always carry them with me on these occasions just incase I need any more on the journey depending on the distance. I think you're wise to try somewhere close at first and explain to your husband this will boost your confidence to try and go further afield gradually. Hope you manage to get a lovely relaxing break....you deserve it. x

[perrytan in reply to Hidden]

Hi coby thankyou for your reply I take diazepam as well but sometimes it dosnt help I know it would do me good to go and like you once I'm there I would properly enjoy it it's the anxious feelings I get before hand I get really nervous thinking about going I'm physically sick which isn't good when you've got to travel x

[Hidden in reply to perrytan]

Hi Perrytan, good to hear from you. I read a saying recently. It said " Don't believe all your mind tells you " On a practical note you can get your doc to prescribe an anti sickness pill. They really do work. I can fully identify with the enormity of the problem. I have got as far as the check in desk at an airport and had to cancel my holiday..Just couldn't do it...panic attack big time. Very sad because my partner missed their much needed break too. Instead we drove all the way home again. On a brighter note we managed to find a cottage nearby and were able to relax once we had got over the disappointment. I wish you the best as you work to find a way through it all.x

[perrytan in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou very much coby x

[jakejoeytracey in reply to Hidden]

Hi coby i am going away on holidays in july and since iv booked it im really been gettin sick and panic attacks .i have also been to the airport and left again the worry of getting there .been there and getting back home is awful feeling .cheers Dave

[Hidden in reply to jakejoeytracey]

Hi Dave

Looks like coby is no longer a member you can tell if someone isn't by the profile pic it will be grey , just didn't want you to think you were been ignored as this member will no longer be able to see your reply

Maybe you might feel like doing your own post & members will see it & be able to relate to how you feel & give you some good advise & support

Take Care

xxx

[scoobyd]

I hate going on holiday dnt knw why it scares me being far away from home plus I have bad claustrophoia so I wudnt fly I can't go on trains I hate goin under tunnels even if I go on holiday 2 blackpool I wanna go home

[perrytan]

Hi scoobyd I'm the same I'm frightened about going on planes trains boats its like I'm scared of everything and I'm sick of it I can't do anything without getting anxious about it

[Hidden]

perrytan I haven't been on a holiday for about 7 years as i'm so afraid to go too far, my unfortunate husband used to love to go abroad to the heat and swim in the sea but i would be terrified. We have been away for weekends but not too far and i get anxious about that. I don't know what to suggest to you but i do hope you go and have a wonderful time and be very proud of yourself then hopefully it will spare me on to do it. i to just want me back. hugs x

[perrytan]

Hi hunnybug thankyou for your reply I think it's because I find it hard to come out of my comfort zone I would love to go away I just get all these feelings ie been sick running to the loo hot sweats the shakes and I think to myself if I agree to go I've got to suffer with all these feelings which are not very nice I know I should push myself but its so hard xxx

[Mysteryreader]

As someone who loves going away I find this difficult to answer but I think it is little steps. Explain to your husband how you feel and what happens to your body and you will try somewhere near home for a couple of nights or even just a night.. If he can't cope with this he is not being very sensitive and perhaps needs to go away on his own, friends, family while you have a treat at home. How would you feel about this? My partner will fly but hates it and not long distance. I have been to Vietnam and India withoutout him but he has enjoyed listening to my experiences and went out with his mates and listened to his wierd records while I was away and I made sure I brought him back some really nice pressies. I also make sure that we regually do things that he wants to do together.

It sounds like just going for a short break near home will cause real distress and he needs to understand this.

Hope you can come to a compromise.

Mystery Reader

[perrytan]

Hi mystery reader I have explained to my husband how I feel and he just says deal with it he has been away on his own a few times but he says he feels guilty going without me but I feel guilty that when I get my symptoms I'm spoiling it for him I can't seem to win