Well Ive been looking forward to some time off work, thought it would be great opportinity to sort loads of stuff out but cant seem to find energy or motivation to start then at end of day feel bad about another wasted day.
One of my problems is im emotionally attached to just about everything my daughters have ever owned lol consequently have a house and garage full of 20 years worth of clutter !!!
Just dont know where to start or how but its really getting me down living like this Im sure Id feel better without all this stuff just have a mental block that wont let it go lol
Mimii xx
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Morning Mimii, I understand what you mean about lack of motivation. Although it sounds like you've got a mountain to climb. Can your daughters not help you?
What I have done with things like this is one box at a time, I also take it into the lounge away from the area and with the tv on and a cuppa I start on that box.
Well ones struggling to recover from depression and the other ones not really the tidying type lol its dangerous entering her room as theres no floorspace !!
Cant really blame them ive not set good example and never made them do any chores ,
Perhaps try the box idea but i tend to look at things and want to keep it lol
Mimii xx
Morning mimii
Bless you , I no how that feels , I am very sentimental & can have a habit of keeping everything , I have to be very care ful , as I struggle throwing things out , especially like you , when they have belonged to my kids & loved one's
For me its happy memories & by throwing things out I feel I would loose them , but you dont
I have to be ruthless sometimes & it takes some doing
I have to say "Right this has to be done come on " lol
I would start in one place & maybe make piles
Its ok to keep a few things that are really special to us , maybe small ones that wont take up to much room
Then I have a pile that can go to charity & help
I have a pile that I think my kids might want ...if they dont then I think well if they dont want them , there is no reason I should hang on to them
And I no its the worse bit , but the pile that has to be thrown & I have to do that one quick or if I look & think to much , they would end up in the pile of few things that are really special I want to keep
Maybe you are struggling with the motivation , because its something you no you should do , but it will be emotional , so you dont want to face it
You no we are all here & what ever you manage , we will be understanding & support you
This might not have been any use , just guessing how you might feel , from what I can be like
Let us no how you go on
Love
whywhy
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Hi Mimii, it was just a suggestion! I couldn't really ask my daughter either she's inherited the untidy side of me! Xxx
Yes i think in a way its like id be throwing away their childhood, think i really miss having young kids i know theyre still here but its different, i know they cant stay kids forever lol i look at other mums with young kids when im out and think you lucky things guess i want to go back and do it all again such happy days just wish id a ppreciated that at the time.
Its what I have enjoyed the most in my life & I can sit & think sometimes , what would it have been like if I had had one more lol
I also sit & think how the world is now & am grateful , that they are all grown up doing well & what a struggle the way things are it might be if I were bringing young children up now , that can help me a bit
I was even crying for Kate & Will when they left the hospital yesterday , it brought back all those feelings lol everyone was looking at me gone out , saying its not your baby whats a matter with you
Try & look forward to what the future will bring , mine are my best friends now , especially my eldest as I had her so young & I get alot of joy out of that , then there could be grandchildren to look forward to
Good luck hun with trying to de clutter some things I no its not easy
I keep cards they have sent me , they dont take up much room though & I have kept their name bands that were put on them when they were born & somethings I have kept , I wouldnt put on here lol people might really think I am strange (or more than they do already ) lol
I have just kept small things though rather than large so they dont take up to much room
Thanks whywhy, well few weeks ago i found loads of congratulations on birth of your baby cards lol managed to get rid of some from ppl who im no longer in touch with, i have some baby teeth s omewhere not sure where though lol and more recent tooth of my daughters in a specimen bottle on a shelf lol
Thats the OCD in me , another story lol wouldnt wish it on anyone lol
O I hate not been able to do faces , makes me worry people might take things the wrong way grr
xxx
I spent all evening crying at Kate and Wills, it brought loads of memories back and me being me being morbid as well. Like I won't be here when the baby is on the throne! Xxx
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Exactly the same thoughts I was having Winter , started making me feel all morbid as well
I can really sympathise with you here, at the minute we're redecorating my sister's old room (who's moved out now) so I can move in, and it's proving to be really stressful! There's just so much STUFF!! Loads and loads of things in boxes and bags from when we were little, and most people might not give it a second thought to just chuck away, or put into storage, but despite there not being enough space in our house to keep it all, it is really difficult to let go. I hate the idea of just hiding it all and never seeing it again- though at the same time it's stressing me out having the entire house- corridors, the landing, bedrooms- full to the brim with all this old stuff, and nowhere to put it.
Is there maybe a spare room or cupboard that you could use to store some of your things? I know that's easier said than done, but when you do end up sorting things out (and you'll find a lot of things you don't actually need!) you can keep the more sentimental things in storage boxes and stack them neatly and orderly somewhere in the house. That way, you know that they're there and you can look through some stuff whenever you like, but it's not going to be stressing you out any longer.
As for not having enough motivation, I find that making a good old fashioned list often helps me! make and keep a list of all that you want to try and achieve this week, and then you can physically see how much you have achieved with each thing you tick off. Give yourself a time limit, so doing 2 tasks today, and then another 2 tomorrow etc... Don't let yourself get bogged down with just doing one thing- make sure you let yourself how little breaks and to relax- you are on a break from work after all!
trouble is every room and cupboard is already crammed full of stuff lol my eldest back from uni has now added 3 large bags full of shoes in the hallway lol more and more stuff comes in and nothing goes out ! Good luck with your sisters room let me know how you manage to do it lol
Hi again, with your no motivation has motivated me to throw away 2 very old cushions that I have had since I was 12, they were flat and faded also the dog had chewed one! So they have gone in the bin. I feel like I've thrown part of my mum away.
I've just told the children that I've thrown them away and been shouted at that I shouldn't have done it! I'm going into justification mode now! Xxxx
It's horrendous to live in chaos (I know I do) but it is so hard to confront it too. You're doing so well making a start. Take it slowly. Give yourself lots of time. Be kind to yourself. And little by little you'll get there.
I'm still very low. I know I would feel a lot if I could improve my living space or indeed create a living space at all but I lack the energy or motivation to do something about it. My whole life is chaos. I wish I could just run away and leave it all behind!!!!
Like you say improve our living space might help to de-clutter our minds too worth a try !
Mimii xx
Hi Mimi I can emphasise with you so much. I am a bit of a hoarder myself and really must get motivated to start decluttering! A couple of friends have already helped me twice and when I have dropped a hit about a 3rd time it seems to have fallen on deaf ear. Can't blame them...
Lets pick a day to declutter everyone and all do it together. How about this Saturday or Sunday? What do you all think?
Hi whywhy, I said hopefully ss I dont have much faith in my ability to do this lol!
I can think of a few positives fir you how about having an immaculate clean and tidy home for a start! Or the gift you have for helping others and always knowing the right thing to say to cheer ppl up
I have 2 bedrooms to clean tomorrow , not that they are dirty lol but thats the thing I cant put I have a clean home , because that is because I have OCD lol
Thanks for the I cheer people up , I am laughing here , but I dont no about that either lol
I have 3 options , to say I am flexible
Put a clip of Will-i-am on for everyone , because I think that is very positive or
Sorry whywhy just thought that was insensitive to say about the clean house as you have ocd did not mean to cause offense I can say stupid things sometimes , sorry x
No mimmi , it made me laugh , thats the thing with me , I have had to have a sense of humor with all this , thats why I thought it was funny ...I should be saying I havnt cleaned all week , now that would be a positive lol
Please dont think you were insenstive it made me laugh & i dont always say that much about myself anyway , for people to realize I have it lol
I have 2 bedrooms to clean tomorrow , not that they are dirty lol but thats the thing I cant put I have a clean home , because that is because I have OCD lol
Thanks for the I cheer people up , I am laughing here , but I dont no about that either lol
I have 3 options , to say I am flexible
Put a clip of Will-i-am on for everyone , because I think that is very positive or
I'm with you in spirit Bev but I'm terrified to do it in practise
I had a manic episode the last time I tried to take control and I've been too scared to try ever since. I just don't know how to do it safely. Yes, I need someone with me but I have no-one to ask. I have used up the good will of friends and family. Perhaps we could all do it together??
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I dont no what to do anymore 
Hi all xxx 
No confidence, and constant worry
No future
I cant take no more..
