The talk has occurred

Well I did it!

I've told him I am not being selfish, stubborn or anything like that. He said why carnt I just switch to rational! If I could I would! I told him I needed his help I cannot do this on my own.

So he has decided I need a to do list for next week where I have to go out every day even if its just round the block. Then I can reward myself, I said with cake? Or a sticker? He said I was too old for a sticker ( I quite like that idea) but he did agree that I could have a reward chart!!!??

He also said we will go into town in the morning like we used to do, instead of me saying ok and filling myself with pressure I said I will see how I feel in the morning.

There was quite a bit more but I will not bore you all with that.

Thank you everyone for your love and support it means the world to me xxxxxxxxxx?

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  • Good on you, you go girl one step one day at a time

  • I'm pressing the like button xx

  • Whats the like button Winter lol

    xxx

  • Facebook has a like button xxx

  • O right , I have never noticed , I will have to have a look

    xxx

  • Hello whywhy

    Just thought I'd drop by on this post and say a big helloooo x I hope you are feeling ok. This site is important to me any many others and things will settle soon. I know rose isn't too good so there's noone keeping an eye on you and i notice you are flying around all over this site sooooo just a little nudge to say don't overdo things and make yourself unwell or else i will be after you missus big massive hugs love eve x

  • Thanks Eve

    I no I need watching & with Rose resting well ...I have been let loose

    After yesterday , to be honest , its been so hot today , I waited till later to do my jobs & it has kept my mind busy from thoughts that want to creep in

    I will be good though , pile of ironing tomorrow , so that should cut my hours down lol

    {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

  • I have my beady eye on you.. be warned xx the kids are running me ragged I haven't sat down until now god bless em. It's too hot for chores I'm leaving them until the hot weather breaks. You are so lovely taking care of everyone but you take care too ok loads of love eve x

  • I will Eve :-)

    xxx

  • Hello winter I've made me giggle...about a sticker as a reward ur never to old lol :-) do it in ur own time little steps to the bigger ones. I'm still fighting my fear of medication which I am getting better with and only have fear now and then from it. Also my fear of being here all alone at night wen my partner I'd working. I have done it twice in the last few mths and I do cause myself slot of panic wwith it. Xxx

  • I'm glad I made you giggle, I do have a bit of a wicked sense of humour!

    I think all of us seem to have issues with pills of some sorts, I used to be scared of being on my own I really quite enjoy it now to have the peace Nd quiet is lovely. I can listen to music or watch tv or just read or go to bed without anyone saying to me ' your not keeping me company' also I'm pressure free of others wanting this and that xxxxx

  • Hi Winter

    Well done hun ,

    Make sure though that the goals you set are what you feel comfortable with & not what hubby thinks you should do , as we are the ones suffering & no how much we can manage

    I hope though this has cleared the air with him for you & good luck in the morning , let us no how it goes

    Remember you are worth respect & to be loved

    Love

    whywhy

    xxx

  • Hi Winter

    Well done hun ,

    Make sure though that the goals you set are what you feel comfortable with & not what hubby thinks you should do , as we are the ones suffering & no how much we can manage

    I hope though this has cleared the air with him for you & good luck in the morning , let us no how it goes

    Remember you are worth respect & to be loved

    Love

    whywhy

    xxx

  • Winter great wonderful, see what you did, you stood up and told it how it is, and what you need from him. Well done

    Love

    Bonnie

    xxxx

  • Hi winter

    That's excellent! Try not to overthink going out or doing things and keep speaking your mind. Take things at your own pace. It takes time and patience but you will get there. Going into town is quite daunting at the best of times so if you cant face it tell him so and maybe suggest to him something else that you feel you could cope with and try town another day. You" are the most important person right now and you are doing great. Big hugs love eve x

  • I always go to tick the like button lol it's an habit xx

  • Hi Sweetie,

    Really pleased you've managed to get him to sit down and listen to you. You'll benefit do much from his support but remember you are in control and do not let yourself be pushed further than you can manage.

    You've done really well.

    Keep posting and let us know how you're getting on.

    Love

    Lizard.xxx

  • Nice to see you on here Lizard , have missed your Lizard pic , feels like home when I see it

    (((((((hugs)))))))

  • Aw - thank you WhyWhy, what a nice thing to say.xxx

  • Small steps at a time help us get to the bigger steps. So pleased that you have help on board now, it will make all the difference to you. I still have my husband come and get the groceries with me, can't quite do that on my own yet, but other things I am doing reasonably well. All the very best to you and your plans. Now, the most important thing is..... what will be your reward?????? Make it good.((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))

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