Being sectioned

[tinks2003]

Does anybody know whether my step-son could get me sectioned? As far as I'm concerned I no longer have a next of kin and he has worried me.

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As I believe it used to be but things may have changed , the decision to section someone usually is taken by a doctor & MH team etc , if they feel they are a danger to others or themselves they will section them no matter what

Maybe someone can help if you could explain a little more

Love

whywhy

xxx

[tinks2003]

My step-son is worried because he knows I quite often stay in bed as I have done today. Yes it is unhealthy but I have no interest in what is going on outside and nor do I want to be part of it. He rang my doctor last week, although obviously he couldn't say anything because of patient confidentiality. I have said to him that I am an adult and not his responsibility I do not want to be here and the only thing that I'm holding on for is the results of the complaint from the hospital, which my GP is chasing. His reply to this was 'do you want me to have to get you sectioned'. As I've said in the past I was hospitalised before I met my husband back in 1992 and was kept in for five months I don't want that, so do I just pretend to everyone that everything is okay in my world and withdraw from my counselling etc so everybody else can feel better.

Sorry I'm a bit cross.

[knowles8586]

If your just staying in bed then no I dont think you will be sectioned

Your stepson needs you if Its only getting up to chat to him make sure he has food, is safe I dont no

[tinks2003]

My step-son is 35, married with five children two of which live with him and his second wife. He doesn't need me. I live on my own, have lost my husband and best friend. I know he is grieving for his dad and I have acknowledged this but everyone else in my husband's family have moved on because he wasn't the centre of their world - but he was mine. I very rarely did anything without him because I just wanted to be with him.

[Hidden]

Its ok you don't sound cross you sound like someone that is grieving & in pain & my heart goes out to you

Your stepson saying what he did I am sure it was out of love & concern for you I presume he is you late husbands son & he is no doubt worried as he will no his Dad would want him to take care of you

I don't think but please don't quote me even if you have been sectioned in the pass that someone can "just be sectioned " because someone in the family thinks they should be

You would have to be assessed & proven that you were a danger to yourself or others

I would urge you & you may be cross with me now but I will take it as I care

You really should get help with how you feel you are in a dark place , which is more than understandable , & I can understand you want to see justice how your husband was treated , but also , for your husbands memory & you , the answer isn't what you think when you have

Think of how you feel now , think of people that would be left behind feeling how you feel now because you would no longer be here, would you want them to have this pain , I no you wouldn't

Keep fighting for justice for your husband , please fight to get well to

People are here for you , don't give up

Love

whywhy

xxx

[tinks2003 in reply to Hidden]

Whywhy I understand what your saying, I have been here before but my husband saved me and bought me out in to the light.

I admit I am in a very dark place but I don't want to be here. I have checked with the mental health team and they have confirmed my step-son can't just have me sectioned, it would take a lot of doctors to do it.

I also know that when the complaint is dealt with I am not going to feel any differently, I may have answers but I still won't want to be part of this world.

[BriarRose in reply to tinks2003]

Tinks, it is very very very difficult to get someone sectioned these days!!! Many years ago i contacted Social Services about my sister (now dead) because she was drinking herself to death. The Social Worker I spoke to was very nice, very supportive, but she just said - She's an adult, if she wants to sit in her house and drink herself to death, then that's her right - there's nothing we can do! Just staying in bed all day would NOT get you sectioned - it needs a psychiatrist and a Mental Health Social Worker, and you have to be a serious risk to yourself or others. Quite apart from anything else, i've worked in the NHS and they haven't got the MH beds, so they ain't going to section people unless there is absolutely no option.

But Why is right, I know you don't want to be here at the moment, but remember you're going through the grieving process. Do try to get some help, love, you're not just your husband's wife, you're a unique, precious individual in your own right, and with help you can find that person!

good luck, pet!

Lots of love

Rose

xxxx

[tinks2003]

Hi Rose

Excuse me because I've been drinking so not realy very good. Can't even type.

i have sort help but it's not helping?

[Hidden]

Hi Tinks

You can read about the law on being sectioned here mind.org.uk/mental_health_a... . I understand you can't be sectioned unless you are either a danger to yourself or other people.

Recovering from your terrible loss is not going to be easy, you have a long journey ahead, and it is so hard. There will be good days and bad days (and nights). Anyone who has lost a loved one will understand how you are feeling - if the worst you are doing is staying in bed all day it harms no one. You will come through this, but it will be slow and painful. Do you have anything positive to focus on? If you are getting bereavement counselling, they may be able to help but it will take time. Try to take care of yourself, your husband would not want you to suffer in this way.

{{hugs}}

xxx