Feeling depressed

[MH1982]

This has not been a very good day for me. Lately, there's been a certain situation that's been leaving me frustrated and discouraged. I don't know what went wrong. I tried to be as helpful and supportive that I possibly could, but it seems like it's just never enough. Now, it seems that I'm being isolated and ignored. I'm so sick and tired of being treated like I'm less than everyone else. This seems to be my life's story. For most of my life, even in my childhood I've been treated this way by my family and people in school. Now it's happening again. I don't know how much more I can take. I'm starting to feel like I don't belong anywhere. I've been trying to deal with other stuff from my past and now I'm dealing with this. I'm feeling depressed and it's even causing me anxiety.

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

Some situations we can control and others are beyond our control. It sounds like you were trying and that's what counts. How person reacts, depends on their past and what is happening. You are not to blame for the reaction and if person overreacts. Just know you did what you can and don't self sabotage the rest of your life. If people haven't accepted you and it may be down to them to be so cold. But you sound reasonable person and know we care xxxx

[MH1982 in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

Thank you for your reply. I means a lot. I did try. I tried to do whatever I could to go above and beyond to show support. As I mentioned, I've been dealing with other things as well and for me, it just seems like a continuous series of not measuring up.

[LazyXrayEyes2255 in reply to MH1982]

It's not you and they need to understand where you are coming from. You gave it a good shot, you did what you could. xxxxx

[survivorspirit]

We try and be a good person. That's all we can do. People may misinterpret us, ignore us, or just be nasty. It's not you, sometimes it's just them. Live the life you need to and let it all go. I had this circumstance with my wife's family and finally realized it was their chaos and not mine. I had to gradually let go and now I might not even be able to stay married as my wife's ACOA and alcohol behaviors threaten my depression, anxiety, and PTSD management. Letting go sometimes is necessary for your health and growth. It's hard but you can do what you must. A mental health provider can really help.

[MH1982 in reply to survivorspirit]

Thank you for your reply. I'm thinking that I may need to let go. It has gotten to the point where it has caused me anxiety, which is not what I need when I'm trying to deal with things from my past. It's also becoming exhausting for me.

[survivorspirit]

In another thread I replied to , I used a quote from a good friend, "Get out of the way and let the good things happen". It always comes to my mind when I'm trying to fix things.