Forward Thinking

[YellowxMango]

What are some ideas on how to be more present and to stop thinking about the past or "should have done's". I notice I often criticize myself for not doing better (subjective) and I get lost in thought. How to move on and stay present

[Agora1]

Mindfulness Meditation can help give you that peace of mind that you

are looking for. After all, there is nothing we can do about the past.

Regrets don't take us forward, we end up staying stuck in a cycle of

negativity and loss of self worth. Embrace the moment you are in.

Breathe and exhale the regrets and past thoughts. They are gone.

Watch them float away as you settle for what is real and that's today xx

[Vasiliki99 in reply to Agora1]

all we can do is go on and on ........thats my take on it but i mean it nicely

[GinkgoLeaf]

I have the same problem. Agreed with all comments below, but sometimes it can be good to process the past with a therapist or counselor or friend if it is something you’re stuck on. There was a lot of trauma in my past I couldn’t really process until I worked with a therapist. Also, the book Self Compassion by Kristin Neff is a great resource for learning to be kind and gentle with yourself on your mental health journey. Best of luck!

[BigCatSkills]

I think you have to just do it, a little at a time.

First notice that you are doing it, then try to make a change. You dont have to get it right, right away. There's no time frame and no limit. Just try to notice, and do better

I think

[fauxartist]

Rumination of the things we cannot change is 'crazy making' stuff.....and many of us, me included, battle with this too......For me,...what helps me keep my head quiet is white noise in the background, and keeping my brain busy....and reminding myself that we cannot change the past or know the future, just live for today..... and when I start circling the drain with stuff....I just say in my head...'stop', breath out into the universe all that crap and keep going.... I also have learned to forgive myself for anything I have felt guilty about.... it is what it is. I usually learn from my mistakes, and I've grown and healed a lot....but I'm human.