Not feeling good enough

[UglyDuckling546]

Everytime I think I'm making progress I have a really bad day and feel like I'm back to square one, I feel so alone and like I'm not good enough, all I want is to be happy, it's affecting my child, my marriage and I feel like I'm just watching everything fall apart and I'm helpless to stop it I was told today that this is all in my head and i need to snap out of it

[Eshepard]

Hi, I’m younger than you but I can talk from my experience with feeling like “ taking down” the family. Trust yourself, it kinda is all in your head, but that’s what makes it real. You feelings and fears matters. Your step backs dont mean that you’re back from where you were, they’re part of the process and day after day you’ll feel more strong believe me. I think the most important thing is having hope, try to remain hopeful. Best wishes ❤️

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Eshepard]

Thank you for reaching out yes definitely I'm going to keep going just take each day as it comes, it just hurts when someone tells you to snap out of it, if I could I would have by now Just make me feel sad and alone

[Paints123]

Hi, I can certainly relate to what you are feeling. I thought I was making good progress and was even hopeful tings would be better but then there was 1 event that set me back and I got so down on myself that I felt I was going back to almost square 1. With my therapist we were able to find a bunch of things that showed I was in fact still better off than in the beginning and while I may have had a bit of a setback I was able to see that I would get through it and continue with my progress. It's so hard that progress is not linear and that there are always these lapses and little setbacks. While it may not feel like progress during these try your best to find those little things that show there is progress. You go this!

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Paints123]

Yes definitely I won't give up I just wish people around me understood and gave me the love and support I need to get better, when someone is constantly putting you down it's hard

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

The more dreams and the more I try, seem to come back to square one for me. Pushing through and just practice the skills and keep going till you make it. You want to socialize more start abit at the park or shops and make small talk and eventually you will feel like talking more and get the courage to ask to be friends. It start small and develops from there. I say force yourself out of your comfort zone and keep trying and you will be the person you want to be

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

Thank you, yes I do need to come out of my comfort zone, I hardly go out amd only have a small circle of friends who I don't see very much.

[GinkgoLeaf]

Sorry you’re going through this. I’ve had two “dips” in my mental health journey and they both really knocked me over. I’m not an expert, but it was really good for me to be self compassionate and feel those feelings - telling yourself this is hard, taking your feelings seriously, and asking for help. I’m also a parent and it’s really hard to do this since kids need so much help. Journaling or calling a mental health hotline helped me a lot too. It forced me to be specific about what I was feeling and often it helped me process. Last thing - my therapist recommended not calling these episodes “dips” or “setbacks”. The path towards mental peace is really hard. You are working through these feelings and processing them. It’s hard, but it helped me to see this as a challenging episode as I moved forward, not necessarily going backward. Best of luck - you are not alone. We all struggle.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to GinkgoLeaf]

Thank you for reaching out it helps to know I'm not the only one, I just feel like I'm failing my son sometimes I am looking at changing my therapist and will look into mental health holiness as I belive just talking it out will help a lot

Best of luck to you aswell

[GinkgoLeaf in reply to UglyDuckling546]

I have the same feelings. You are working through your mental health challenges. Many parents don’t do this. My parents never worked on their anxiety/depression and it came out in unhealthy behaviors, like anger and abuse. Being vulnerable is a strength, and models positive behavior to our children. But it’s hard. I’m rooting for you.

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to GinkgoLeaf]

Thank you that means a lot, my parents were the same growing up I haven't really talked about what happened.I just want to make sure my child doesn't go through the same as I did

Please reach out if you ever want to talk

[Agora1]

Hi dear, we're never really back to square one. Each bad day or dip in our

process is yet another learning experience. Remember you are stronger

than Anxiety. Snap out of it is not an option. Wishing for a magic pill is neither.

It is true that it is all in our head. However, the MInd/Body Connection is

inevitable. They work together for good or bad. Our job is to get rid of our

old habits and make new ones.

We must learn to not allow others to try and make us into what they feel

is strength and normality.

What we need is within each one of us. You are not alone, we are here behind

each step you take forward. You are good enough. Never put yourself down.

Happiness is being ourselves. Loving ourselves. xx

[UglyDuckling546 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you, you are right I guess the first step I have to take is learning to love myself

[Lifesearching]

Wow I literally thought I was the only one going thru this💙🥺I’m the late bloomer among my friend group. I went through a period of time where each time I would hit a high, someone would trigger me back into acting life my old self (negative, easily angered). It often got me into a mentality where I literally thought I was cursed. I bet you are doing the best you can with what you have. Perfection is not possible and if someone expects you to be, they are the ones who have serious issues💙💙you deserve to be happy