Dont feel good enough

[Bigt966]

I just dont feel good enough for my partner anymore i keep thinking she would be better off with someone else.when ever she is out i think she is talking to someone else and its driving me insane. If i say anything she moans saying no corse im not better of with someone else so now i bite my tongue and say nothing. Theres no intimacy between us anymore which i dont no why. She just says she dont feel like it. My anxiety is really bad over this and so close to leaving not for me but for her happiness because she would be happier with someone else.

[Hidden]

Your disease is now talking for you! Don’t listen to it!! She married you, didn’t she? Fight for your marriage...don’t hold your tongue. Pursue the matter with her and tell her exactly how you feel and how much you love her ❤️. You sound like you’re giving up without a fight! Open up that can of worms...is she worth the effort? I’m hoping all works out for you as it should 🌷🌞🌷

[fauxartist]

I think you may want to talk to a therapist about this and find out what's triggering this behavior. Your inadvertently pushing her away, when your always questioning the trust. When you accuse your partner or insinuate they are messing around and they are not, it wares the relationship down. Unless you have absolute proof...your just sabotaging the relationship. If you don't feel good about yourself.....that is the image you project to others. And it's not an attractive quality to be needy, and distrusting, it will ware down anyone. I have abandonment issues.....and very early on in my failed relationships I was always suspicious and needing re-assurance, and I got into relationships with emotionally unavailable people, the relationships were doomed from the start. This is a no win situation. It takes a lot of work to get in touch with trust issues and learn to love yourself. I will always be a work in progress....When you do find a relationship after some time in getting help for your issues.....it's very important to be honest about your abandonment issues as it can be hard work some days in a relationship, and keeping the trust is paramount.

[Summersun1soon]

Don't let this state of mind become your reality. She is with you because she saw something wonderful in you. You get that wonderful back. I bet she'd respond to you positively. Make plans to do something fun together. She probably misses the good times, but there can be more. Good luck

[Clarebear86]

Hi there, no you won’t feel good enough given everything you’ve been through I was there too. My anxiety has me constantly thinking my partner is up to no good every night he goes out & it hurts. I chose not to let him hurt me any more and I’m walking away for me. That doesn’t mean it’s the right answer or decision for everyone and you should talk to her about how you feel. Not everyone gets or understands what we go through when our anxiety and thoughts get the better of us

[Want2BHappy3]

Have you sought counseling? You don't mention it? If you want to salvage your relationship? Have you and your girlfriend had a serious conversation? Anxiety is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. So I know what you're getting through. I pretty much don't have a relationship with anyone. If I'm in family situations, I pretend everything is good.

[Hidden]

I had the same issue for a while my friend. What made it go away for me was to think through the scenarios that could happen. For instance, I would let myself think what if she found someone else, then what? And I would say I would be crushed and then I’d say ok then what? And I’d think well eventually I would get over it. And then what? Then I would maybe find someone else. And so on and so on. Many different outcomes. Some good some some bad. Point is. After many weeks of this kind of thinking through so many outcomes, my anxiety dropped. I had come to terms with life without my spouse as tough as that would be I realized life goes on and I have choices.