My marriage is in limbo and the anxiety is real

[Brashton2802]

If any of you have ever gone through this before how did you handle it. I am struggling with the fact that I want to work through our issues and I'm not sure what her ideas are. She isn't ready to talk yet. She is living in her sisters spare room about a mile and a half from our house. She did mention to me that she would like to move into our spare room after she gets back from a trip she is going on. Any suggestions on dealing with the immense anxiety of an unknown future?

[catsrock]

I have been there and it's really hard. I hope you guys can go to counseling. I've also found books on marriage to be helpful, particularly ones by Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt (they are life partners).

[Brashton2802 in reply to catsrock]

Thanks. I am going to give those a shot

[Brashton2802 in reply to Brashton2802]

Also, I am reading "At Last a Life" that is helping me and motivating me to deal with my anxiety. It is a fabulous book so far.

[Sitaqui]

The unknown future is a beast. I know that beast well. The anxiety is so real. I'm sorry for your anxiety.

Unfortunately all you can do is practice staying present, reach out to whatever spiritual beings you believe in. Google ways to stay present or look for quotes about it. Quotes about acceptance really help me.

Breathe. I posted here an article about how Pranayama yogic breathing is a powerful tool to help balance our emotions. Search for it here or online.

Keep sharing here, journal, remember the things that have helped you in the past and do them. Distract yourself with activities, exercise, hobbies, artsy projects.

Consider seeing a therapist if that's an option. There are also online sites like Betterhelp.com (not promoting, it's just the only one i can think of right now. ) to connect to a therapist and options without insurance. What about seeing a doctor who might prescribe something to take the edge off? Also do-able online.

You are not alone. The only way to experience that tho is by reaching out. If nothing else, we're here for you on healthunlocked. 🌻