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[Not_a_victim]

I'm so ugly. I'm unlovable. Why would anyone remotely attractive be interested in me. I'm so hideous. I'm not thin enough. Not even close. I'm not even that overweight. I keep hearing things like love yourself, they're wrong, maybe you should lose weight, no one will love you until you love yourself (which I think is untrue entirely), and you can control people's opinions by changing (this one is crazy). I don't want to hear it...I just want someone to tell me I'm pretty enough...my depression is consuming...

[Celtic18]

Hello to you I'm sorry to hear you are so unhappy remember that that beauty comes from within why do feel ugly not every ones made the same so I don't think your are ugly I think you are trying to live up to the magazines idea of beauty but try not to look at these as they only reinforce a person's negativity just be your self ! If you've not already got to a physiatrist and ask for help I truly wish you all the best go out and leave your life to the full God bless xx

[Not_a_victim in reply to Celtic18]

Thank you I feel like people are pressured into those magazines standard so much

[Celtic18 in reply to Not_a_victim]

I hope to fell better for your self

[Ticktick]

Ah! Not a victim ,everyone is pretty or handsome Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholderJust you wait

You don't know who is round the corner

Cometh the hour cometh the man/woman

Just hang in there ?

God bless you

[Mohammad-341]

Whosoever you are, you don't need people's certificate to be good. Enjoy and work hard in gym or park

[Not_a_victim in reply to Mohammad-341]

I'm tryin lol

[Mohammad-341]

I know it is easier said than done at ur age but believe me we don't need any certificate for us to be good. I m 47 and remained on antidepressants for the reason I was thin during my younger hood that spoiled my young age

[Not_a_victim in reply to Mohammad-341]

Thank you

[RS1974]

Sweetie I also struggled with thinking I was ugly not this and that enough but at 50 and overweight and I would say younger self you were skinny and unhappy and now your overweight and Happy. Work on your self esteem with a therapist and start to like yourself.You're perfect the way you are.

You're good enough and true beauty looks at the heart and nothing else.

[Not_a_victim in reply to RS1974]

Thank youuu :))

[RS1974 in reply to Not_a_victim]

You're welcome 😊 Send me a message if you need to talk

[Not_a_victim in reply to RS1974]

I definitely will🥰

[RS1974 in reply to Not_a_victim]

😊

[TeaOwl]

Do you have someone who you have told these things to in-person? Please share this with someone who you love and trust this weekend. I noticed you have lexapro listed- have you so considered trying an alternative? I’m not a doctor, but I was on lexapro for a long time, and eventually switched to a low dose of duloxetine and that helped immensely. Obviously ask your doctor, and go slower than you think you need to with any switch. I don’t know which medication will work for best you, but it sounds like lexapro might not be helping you as much as you’d hope?

Right now you’re believing the lies that your brain is telling you. It’s just what your brain is doing, but it is not true. It has helped me so much to make sure I’m “feeding” my mind with good things and truth. If special media is something that makes you feel inadequate, you don’t need it in your life.

I dont know how you feel about faith, but I feel that I’m supposed to tell you that God loves you and has a plan and purpose for your life. Even in your darkest moments he is there for you. Hand over your sadness and hopelessness to Jesus- I believe he can do anything. There will be light that comes from this suffering you’re going through but you just don’t know what it is yet.

I hope this weekend is better for you! Please do something you enjoy, with someone who makes you feel at peace when you’re your most genuine self

[Not_a_victim in reply to TeaOwl]

I mean I'm told this a lot. In school I was told it too.

[TeaOwl in reply to Not_a_victim]

Just sending you love and well wishes. I hope you are doing ok today

[Alpakka123]

Hi there,

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I won't insult you by saying that what you're feeling isn't valid. They are incredibly valid for you, and they are incredibly real and true for you. Are you working with a therapist? If not, it might be an idea to do so.

Have you heard about cognitive distortion? I think there are 11 of these, but someone can correct me here if needed.

Everyone views themselves differently, and what you see in yourself may not necessarily be what someone else sees.

I hope this helps🙂