My to do list is now on hold

[Amysmom]

Well I was going along really good and then I did something totally stupid I lifted something up that wasn't that heavy but I guess I was moving wrong so now the back is out and lots of pain. To top all that off a friend of mine who I have been talking to for yrs who also had depression and anxiety and who is very young late 30s had a major stroke. She know longer knows anyone or anything and I am getting information from her mom since her husband couldn't afford to have his cell on cause hes trying to keep up with house payments. He is going through total hell with all that has happened. Found out 80 percent of her brain was affected by the stroke so the person I knew and cared for and loved like a daughter is gone. This makes me so sad and depressed, I know there is nothing I can do but accept the situation but its hard. Her and I would text multiply times a day about everything and anything having that one on one support was great.Not looking for advise just letting out my feelings I miss her so much and the kicker is she lives in another state so I can't visit. We actually met on another depression site over 9 yrs ago. So if you have someone like I had her hang on tight to them because they are priceless and hope nothing like this ever happens to them cause its heart breaking.

[LifeIsThePitts]

I'm so sorry. It must feel like you've lost a daughter, in a way. I have a friend like this too. We met on this forum and we've become emotional texting buddies in much the same way. I understand how losing that support system can leave you feeling unmoored and adrift.

We're here to pick up the slack. Hope you're feeling a tad less lonely 🫂🫂🫂(((hug)))

Take care of yourself...rest and alternate ice and heat for your back. Give yourself the rest of the day off 😉

[Amysmom in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

Thanks, have been resting doing the normal stuff you do when you hurt your back really bad even using a cane cause it hurts to just get up. As for my friend I guess I just need to have a really good cry for what has been lost. She is such a kind hearted wonderful person with all the issues she had herself but we would cheer each other on laugh and get pissed with each other that was because of the age difference. The person I knew won't be back and that just kills me, all I ever wanted for her is to be able to be happy and live a good life but now that chance is gone. She was also a heart transplant patient among other things that happened in her young life. As you age you expect things to go to hell but when its someone so young its just heartbreaking.

[Gramas]

So sorry to hear you hurt your back. I often do the same in lifting something I know I shouldn’t but do it anyway. I guess it just a part of being stubborn in my old age that I can still do things.

I’m also sorry to hear about your friend. She is too young to be experiencing all this, you wonder why it happens. I can just imagine how hard this is on her husband too. He could possibly set up a Gofundme page to try and get some help. What’s good though is that she has a friend like you who cares so much. We should all be so lucky. Hope you are feeling better all the way around.

[Amysmom in reply to Gramas]

Thank you for your kind thoughts, Yes I do stuff I know I shouldn't do but do it anyway the mind tells you one thing the body say have you totally lost your mind lol. As for my friend her husband is not the type of person to do a go fund me to much pride so what can you do. I know my friend will never be the person I knew I am just hoping for her that when things progress she still sleeps alot and is intubated so know one knows what or how much damaged she has that she will be able to have some quality of life. For now it doesn't look good cause the stroke did 80 percent damage just a sad situation all the way around for someone so young who had their entire life ahead of them.

[Gramas in reply to Amysmom]

I totally agree with you regarding doing things we shouldn’t do. I know better and I try to do it but then the body reacts with “what are you thinking?!”

I’m so sorry again about your friend. Do they think she’ll make any kind of recovery? I know 80% is a lot of damage though so it might not be much. It’s so sad to think of this happening to someone so young and especially someone you’re so close to. Take care of yourself as well as I’m sure this is affecting you deeply.

[Amysmom in reply to Gramas]

ugh dealing with a stress fracture in my lower back oh joy can't move without intense pain but what can you do . Friend is still the same no news there her husband is just totally lost and not doing well at all.

[Hurtingheart2]

I’m soo sorry I hav lost friends that were there in this way for me as well not through stroke but they passed away or just kinda moved away and lost touch with them!! I truly feel for you and for her and her husband 💞 Wish I could be that friend for you, I know I don’t know you or if you’d want that but I feel that for many on here wish I could meet you in person and know all of you! and sending you ((((((hugs )))))))🙏🏼💕🦋🌻

[Amysmom in reply to Hurtingheart2]

Thank you, yes its so hard. I found out last night they will be taking my friend off the vent tomorrow she is just so young to have so much happen to her. In one way she will be free but all of us left behind will be lost without her . She was my one on one , I thought I would handle this a lot better then I am but its just so damn hard knowing I will never get to talk with her again.