5 years ago today...and life now is worse than ever.

[secrets22]

5 years ago today my wonderful partner departed this earth and in those years since i have never adjusted to being alone and it's affected me deeply, and even my health has been in a downward spiral ever since, and non more so than the past few days.

Since two days ago i have been plagued with unrelenting pains in my stomach ,so bad that last night I couldn't sleep a wink. I have taken Ibru fin, Co-codanol, Gaviscon, Ferogloban ,and now a friend has been out and bought me Milk of Magnesia hoping it will relieve the pain. I will ty anything.

The other thing I've noticed i've had terrible constipation, and have taken laxatives, something i don't normally need, and when i did go it was like concrete and it was almost impossible to flush without breaking it up.🥵 ( unpleasant to say the least)

So any advice to alleviate the pain would be most welcome.😒

[Cavalierrubie]

Secrets it will pass. You need to clean your bowels thoroughly and then your stomach will stop complaining. I went to AE once with stomach pains and they said it was constipation and to go home and take senokot. Constipation can cause lots of problems including haemorrhoids. Grief causes so many physical problems. I have been there. Lonliness and grief create the wrong fluids in the body as well as upset nervous system and hormones. Take care.

[Arymretep]

I was rushed into hospital in May with a bowel obstruction caused through constipation, which was caused by all the meds im on im sure, had major surgery was in there for two weeks, thankfully okish now, so please go to your Dr who will give you strongerlaxatives, I was given LAXIDO. Kpowder which you dissolve in water which worked, now I take them whenever I need , you can take them for faecal constipation, do t know if you can buy them yourself maybe ask the chemist if you can’t get to see a Dr soon, but maybe you need to make an appointment as soon as you can just to make sure. Take care, hope you feel better soon

PS. just had a look and you can buy on Amazon or get from local chemist 👍

[hypercat54]

Hi this is awful and I have been there. You have had some great advice but I will add try adding more fibre to your diet to see if that helps.

If not then go to your doctor to get checked out as changes in your bowel habits for more than a few weeks could indicate something which needs to be checked. Its probably nothing serious but best to be on the safe side.

[Nothing_but_books]

Hi secrets,

I'm not sure, did you say you were taking Ibuprofen? If so, you should know it is a stomach irritant, and shouldn't be taken if you have chronic stomach trouble. ( I know you said this is new.)

Two days of unrelenting pain is plenty long enough to be concerned. A doctor could look into what's going on for you. Diagnosing yourself while you're in all this pain could make this hang on a lot longer.

If you phone a pharmacist, they can look into the meds you're taking and see if there are any problems.

Are you drinking enough water? Being dehydrated can lead to constipation. Do they sell Benefiber where you are? I mix that stuff in a small glass of room temperature prune juice and it helps. It did me more good than all the strong laxatives I've been given.

I hope you start feeling better soon. Let us know?

[secrets22 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

i drink almost 4ltr of water a day, but my problem is i tend to not read through all the info on various products i use which is foolish, but often taken in desperation.

[Nothing_but_books in reply to secrets22]

I agree and I get acting in desperation. When things are bad enough, you agree to almost anything.

Could you phone your pharmacist with a list of everything you're taking and ask for feedback?

[Rufus07]

I’m sorry you are going through this. I hope you find relief soon.

[catsrock]

I'm very sorry - this sounds incredibly difficult. I hope you are better soon.

[c420352]

Try fiber capsules instead of laxatives; GI docs recommend.

[Weatherwoman]

I am so sorry that you are going through all this physical & emotional pain. As suggested in above posts, I feel you should call your doctor, get an appt. ASAP, and make sure nothing more serious is going on --probably not, but just to make sure. My Sig. Other of 27 years passed two years ago, and taking care of him for two & one-half years, and then his passing took a toll on my physical & mental health. Crying, again, today thinking of him & How I miss him SO Very much. When someone so close to us passes, it's quite "normal" to feel this way. I did see a Grief Counsleor which helped in the year after his passing. I am now in a Grief Support Group online which is helpful. Going out helps, being retired, I take classes, go out when I can, staying in touch with some family & friends --But, don't expect them to "get it" as they usually can't unless they've lost someone So close. However, there seems to be no "fix" for such a loss --just doing one day at a time --trite, but true. Wishing you to feel better. Hugs

[Stippler]

secrets22 I am sorry for your loss. I cannot offer medical advice but I can share my own experience. I have a very long history of bowel troubles, been to the ER and hospital over and over for it. Two years ago I had a bowel obstruction in which I needed to be hospitalized for 4 days. Luckily they did not need to do surgery again. I think it would really be good to check with doctor ASAP before taking any laxatives if you are in pain. During my hospital stay they said that a bowel obstruction can cause scar tissue that will make it easier to have another even worse bowel obstruction in the future. Getting it resolved early can help prevent this. Please see a doctor and ask them before doing anything if you can. Better to be safe. Best wishes to you.