How do you really LIVE and not just survive daily?

[DJB74]

I ask this question in general, however maybe a bit more directed at people here that doesn't necessarily believe in an after life after this one or someone who is not sure what actually does happen, when you are caught in the reality of knowing this very well could be it. The typical life expectancy is 74ish you are 2/3 there and basically are living the grind day to day just to survive in the midst of rising apathy or out right hatred and the general cost of living. Where is one to find motivation and hope to persevere? My foundation or what I thought was my security and source for that is in a severe state of erosion. I feel my empathy, peace and joy, being transformed into despair, frustration and apathy, which I do not like.

[Hidden]

I totally relate to this! For me, I'm trying to focus on what I really want in my day to day life and giving it my hyperfocus. But also letting go of perfection as I also have a lot of hours spent in survival mode.

It feels self-indulgent, but my focus is equally shared between that and my healing. Slow starting but hoping for momentum as I get better at it.

My motivation is reaching the point to get my rescue puppy.

I feel I'm at a point of, no time to waste... I'm also slowly including health stuff, to keep as young and fit as I can for as long as I can.

[Rufus07 in reply to Hidden]

I hope you reach the point of getting your puppy. They are the best! Mine helps me so much. Always there when I’m crying and feeling bad. He’s 7, so not really a puppy…even though he acts like one. Rescue is the way to go. It just breaks my heart knowing there are so many unwanted ones😞. Good luck! I wish you the best!

[Hidden in reply to Rufus07]

Thank you so much Rufus07 and yes, for me rescue is the only way to go.

[ToogzPup]

That sucks that you're feeling that way. I know what you mean. It's hard to find hope or motivation. I struggle with this too. It feels like you're just stuck and no matter what you do, you struggle more. I don't know how to help but your post resonated with me. We're all dealing with difficulties but at least you're not alone in that.

[DJB74 in reply to ToogzPup]

I understand and appreciate your reply. Positive vibes and the best to you toward your progress!

[Rufus07]

Good question! If you figure it out, please let me know. I feel like I’m just surviving and have felt this way for too many years.

[Nothing_but_books]

74ish huh? Right then. No time left for worries.

[Midori]

I use a little saying ' Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, all we have is today, and that is a gift and is why it is called the Present.'

Live in the Now, use the past as information.

I am almost 77, I have many good memories to look back on; I'm safe in my bungalow, with my son as my carer. We have friends here, but they have their own lives; we don't intrude on them much, I have some work to be done on the bungalow (new kitchen, maybe new bath/shower room), decorating, etc.

Neither of us drive, which is a pity as we live in a very nice part of the country. We aren't party folk, we like the quiet. We are content.

Cheers, Midori