Alone

[Iluvducks]

Lately I've been feeling alone and like I'm a burden to others. It feels like I'm walking through life with no purpose or direction. I feel like I'm floating through my life and I can't control it

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you have to think properly and when you can decide slowly what you want to do with your life. Give yourself options study or work or temporary job or voluntary to find what you really want to do. Ask people what they think and see if they can give you advise. Take your time to decide. Use other people to give you details and help.

You have time to sort out all these things x best of luck x

[Rufus07]

I feel the same way. Like life is passing me by. Ths sad thing is, I don’t know what I want to do. I don’t work. I’m on disability and the thought of having to go back someday drives me insane. I worked in a medical laboratory for 27 years and got burnt out. The thing is, that’s all I know. I would never go back though. The stress and extreme anxiety drove me to leave. I couldn’t keep up with all the changes and was made to feel stupid because I’m not a fast learner, especially with computers. This probably doesn’t help you any, but I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

[Spud-u-Like1982 in reply to Rufus07]

Exactly the same as you. For me it was nearly 20 years in civil service office jobs that just eventually came to a head after having a bully of a female boss. No one helped me. I was part of a work union, but definitely not their preferred demographic, so they wouldn't help me and I was sacked. I've been on disability for a year and a half now and it sucks having no money, no pride in myself, no goals to work towards and nothing to enjoy anymore. It's a hellish limbo of nothingness and I absolutely dread the thought of going back to any sort of work. It doesn't help that where I'm from so many school colleagues still live and moved back to with their own young families and now I'm surrounded by all these successful Doctors, Lawyers, Pilots and business owners and there's me, a nobody with little prospects', loads of mental health issues and without my own young family. It really sucks.

[optimismrus]

Sorry if I sound like I'm preaching but you are not a burden. You are a necessary part of a Universal puzzle. You are a precious child of the Universe/God. A soothing affirmation to repeat to yourself is, "I am perfect, whole and complete. I am just as the Universe created me." Believe it. You will learn how to change your thoughts when you practice new ways of thinking. It's not always easy, but you have lots of time to learn. You can do this. I'm glad you found our site. 🥰

[Spud-u-Like1982]

I can completely relate to how you feel. I felt that way since I was in my teens and I'm 42 years of age now and still have no idea what I want to do or how to feel better.

[Greenlovecoffee]

Hello, I also joined ADAA yesterday.I also feel the same way so I can relate to you. I am 35 years old, don't work and on medication. My depression is 15 years long. I also feel guilty, helpless and a burden on my family. All my friends and relatives around me are married and I feel like I don't belong and lonely. I feel they don't understand me and I am exaggerating which makes me feel more alone. I am saying all this because I want to assure you that you are not alone. We can't control our mind and emotions but we have inbuilt strength within us. I am sure we both can get through this period.

[Ahaislip73]

I can completely understand how you feel. Lately I'm feeling the same way. I feel like I'm a burden to everyone else with no purpose in life. It's definitely a lonely life. I'm here if you ever want to chat. I'm not much on chatting on the phone but will text. I'm happy to share my number if you ever want to text. Take care! Sending hugs.

[kenster1 in reply to Ahaislip73]

Hi that wouldn't be the wisest move giving out personal information to total strangers I'd strongly advise against it.

[Ahaislip73 in reply to kenster1]

It wouldn't be my actual everyday number. It's a like cover number but still goes to my phone. I know everything isn't safe but I don't always get my email notifications and texts are much faster to communicate. I'm looking for real life peer support not just an online forum.

[Divii]

my suggestion is to listen to positive affirmations first thing in the morning and before going to bed. Try to be out as much as possible in parks, mall, cafe, common areas near your house rather than brooding at home. Dont remain by yourself even if you don’t have any close friends. Only if you feel better , then you can Think and reflect why you’re feeling what you’re feeling.

Regarding the fact that your life doesn’t have any direction, I suggest to start small and do what makes you happy. Maybe volunteer, go for a massage, shop etc. it’s not fair to imagine how your life is gonna turn out when you’re only 18. Most Importantly, don’t compare your life to anyone else’s. Seek suggestions but avoid comparisons. Read also ‘man’s search for meaning’ by victor Frankl.

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