Sound Invasion

[EricJones]

So, I'm having difficulty with sounds more than usual. Will others be able to tell that I'm struggling with sounds? No matter if I'm struggling or not, it is alright to struggle with them?

[Vonus5591]

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[EricJones in reply to Vonus5591]

I'm looking for the question answered, as I've stated it. I don't know if you can do that for me. Could you try?

[Vonus5591]

Maybe make people aware you are struggling and they may do something about the noise like lower their voices and stop the loud music

[LifeIsThePitts]

Generally, no. If you don't tell them you're bothered, they won't notice or care.

You have to answer these questions for yourself.

Nobody is in your head, no one reads your thoughts and no one else can heal your traumas and insecurities but you.

You keep asking "WHY"_____?

You've got to fill in those"blanks" with what is going to serve you well instead of repeating the same worn out cycles over and over, thinking it will yield different results.

The effort must come from within. Nothing external in the world outside your Mind and body will magically fix what's bothering you.

That is the journey and challenge only you can take.

[EricJones in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

How do I concentrate on what I want to concentrate on? Will people be able to tell that I'm struggling with my concentration?

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to EricJones]

This is not meant for anyone but YOU to figure out. That's why you have to work on yourself, for yourself, by yourself.

This is your life's challenge, not anyone elses. You've got to learn to teach yourself how to learn ABOUT yourself.

Are you spiritual, are you religious, what do YOU believe in? Start looking within for answers instead of hoping someone will cure you with a magic solution...it will be the hardest thing you've ever done, but, bottom line, you've got to do the work to enjoy the spoils.

[Alpakka123]

The answer to your first question is no, no one can tell that you're having trouble with sounds. The answer to your second question is yes, it is alright to struggle with this

[EricJones in reply to Alpakka123]

Is it okay, to move when someone else moves? Like I find myself doing that a lot. I'll pay attention to someone and then flinch when they move. mostly my head darts. Is that okay? Will others care?

[Alpakka123 in reply to EricJones]

Yes, this is perfectly okay and no, they won't care.

[EricJones in reply to Alpakka123]

Can you tell me from your interpretation, why others won't care that I move when they move?

[Alpakka123 in reply to EricJones]

Because people are too wrapped up in their own things to care.

[Midori]

Perfectly all right! I have trouble with loud and unexpected sounds, too.,even indoors! Even a knock on the door will get me jumping and heart racing. For me it's down to CPTSD.

Cheers, Midori

[MaggieSylvie]

Hi Eric, I struggle with sounds, too. The TV is fairly quiet and then it's not! People who ring my very loud doorbell and then thump on the door. Next door playing car radios with the windows down. Enough is enough. I was in hospital once and pleaded with the nurses to stop flip-flopping up and down the ward all night. I was put into a side ward as I was told I was probably very noise sensitive. You may be the same. In my experience no-one cares that you are struggling. Do whatever you have to do to make life easier for yourself.

[EricJones in reply to MaggieSylvie]

What do you mean no one cares? Do you mean they don't care respectfully or disrespectfully?

[MaggieSylvie in reply to EricJones]

They are totally unaware of the noise they are making and they don't care if it upsets the likes of you and me.

[EricJones in reply to MaggieSylvie]

I'm talking about the sounds that I hear, not that other people hear.

[MaggieSylvie in reply to EricJones]

Oh, so the noises are not made by other people then? It's disturbing when noises are made by others. Sorry. I am not well at the moment.

[EricJones in reply to MaggieSylvie]

What do you mean? Are you physically sick or mentally?

[Zhangliqun]

You might have misophonia.

[EricJones in reply to Zhangliqun]

Yeah, maybe.

[LifeIsThePitts]

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Here's a 6 minute podcast that might start you in the right direction for working with your "shadow" side. Carl Jung is a revered psychologist and has coined the term "Shadow Work" in psychology, essentially it's uncovering your unconscious behavior and trauma into awareness so that you're better in touch with yourself.