I'm worried about me hearing the background sounds and people picking up on the fact that I have a radar on them. I'm wondering if people pay attention to these things or not, if people pay attention to me. If you could respond that would be great thanks.
How much do people pay attention to you? - Anxiety and Depre...
How much do people pay attention to you?
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how many people pay attention to you? 0. none. no one at all whatsoever.
how many people pay attention to what things? you and your radar? you need professional help to solve this properly Eric Jones. also, you should know staring people up and down constantly is not okay.
“...the place i'm at now only deal with psychiatrist, recovery coach CPS and therapist.” - that’s a quote from you. you said that. make an appointment with all of them and go from there. you’re worried, very understandable.
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There you go EricJones, the best advice I've read on here. I've read dozens of replies & members giving friendly advice based on their experiences. You do need professional help, we are here to stand with you should you really need it. Peace. Navar
i dont stare people up and down constantly....i hyper focus on them, theres a difference
Hyper focussing on others is also intrusive. I agree with the others that you really need professional help.
yes i know i need professional help...i come on this website because its taking awhile to get the help i need
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Alright understood. Until then hang in there.
Hi. It is probably real but by the time you can prove it, it will have passed and no one will understand. That’s my understanding. I would say to do what you have to then try to enjoy the ride. Trust in a higher power and work on gratitude and perhaps plan something that you think will make you happy and try to figure out how to achieve it one step at a time.
can you explain this further "Hi. It is probably real but by the time you can prove it, it will have passed and no one will understand."
Okay, yes. I do believe you because I’ve experienced some far out things before. They were real and there strange things out there that people don’t believe. That’s not really helpful either, I know. I don’t know exactly what you’ve been through but you’re not alone. There are lots of people. I think you should trust in your inner authority. I had to get some space for awhile. Nature is nice. Even a walk with headphones if you can. Don’t listen to them. They don’t know. I mean, you matter too. Does that help? If you want, you can take notes with dates on a calendar or something. A lot of professionals do that. Just in case.
not sure what to say to this...i just know that i have a serious fear of someone paying attention to my body language that i dont like and am trying to get rid of the feaar
I had someone pay attention to me and it was bad. Legally, there was nothing I could do because it was my word against theirs as there were no witnesses. People assume I’m the problem because I have the label but I was trying to heal. I think you should notice your feelings because they may save your life. There are people out there who don’t have empathy. Don’t be alone with them if you can help it. There is a chance they’ll change and get better which would be awesome! Take your time and learn and take notes. Go to school. They teach that, I think. To show your work and explain why you think things.
what are we talking about? Are we talking about " I'm wondering if people pay attention to these things or not, if people pay attention to me."
Excuse me.
are you apologizing or are you being combative?
People don't notice.
They don't notice me.. like they don't notice if I'm noticing them?
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No they don't notice you, but they're more apt too if you put your radar on them. If you walk into the room, look at them ONCE , acknowledge them Once and with all your ability try to follow the conversation. Maybe your radar will stay silent?
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well then theres the background sounds i hear that come from other people that keeps me focused on people...if i can ignore their movements i cant ignore the sounds, if i can ignore the sounds (which i cant) then theres their body movements
Wearing headphones could help with reducing auditory overwhelm. I get a bit overwhelmed if there's a lot of different sounds all at once (slight autism thing). I am not sure what your struggling with but maybe this is something you can work with as well. I was just thinking that ignoring thoughts and impulses that cause distress might help? Meditations of various sorts help focus or impulse control. For instance, starring at a candle without blinking and feeling the burn, refusing the impulse to blink is one such. If you can do this you have better control over other impulses. There so many kinds of meditations and so many ways we can master our minds. I'm always looking for ways that work with and on my specific challenges. If you find something helpful, I'd love to know what you've discovered 
People are busy with lots of things going on so I'll say no one is paying attention to you.
People don't pay attention to others now a days. They are more busy with mobile than u
Eric, if you're worried about people wondering about your body language, what body language are you displaying?
oh idk...just slow moving body language (arms and legs) , my head jerks back in response to movements like a knee-jerk reaction...
That's very calming, you know, not particularly weird. But then the sudden movements of others startles you, and your head jerks back, similarly to how I and others react to sudden noises.
Yeah...will they be noticed?
Not particularly, and if it is the same people time and time again, they will be used to you, but this question gets to be a bit like the funfare mirrors - are you looking at me looking at you looking at me ....Don't worry; be happy; you are ok.
Radar? Oh ya, "beep-beep-beep". 📡 Me too. It's not them, it's me. I worry what people think. I know it's my insecurity, but how to stop?
Probably smile and forget it.
My mother used to tell me "No-one's looking at you!" That was a comfort, if true, and then I started to think "Why aren't they looking at me?!" You can't win.
i'd be fine if they didnt look at me...i mean if they deliberately tried not to look at me, then i'd have some trouble with that, but i dont want to be looked at, at the wrong times (when a person is not talking to me)
You can't control whether people are looking at you or not. People glance round, but that's not looking. People might notice you and then turn away; they might stare at you - that is definitely looking with a capital L and it is rude. You could hide your face - wear a hat with a wide brim if that's your style; that would hide part of your face and it would stop you seeing anyone looking at you, but if they want to look, they will. How do other people respond when you look at them?
i dont really look at people except the person speaking..i dont want it to get weird and i dont want them thinking i'm gawking at them.
Well, if you're not gawking at them, they won't think you are.
think i am what? looking at them?
gawking at them.
i dont know how people respond, because i never look at them unless they're talking...do you think people can notice me paying attention to them, if i'm eyes arent on them?
No, I don't think people can notice you paying attention to them if your eyes aren't on them. Having your eyes on them doesn't even mean you are paying attention to them. Your mind might be elsewhere.
So people can never tell, ever?
I won't say they can never tell ever - only if they were watching you closely, which a member of the public is unlikely to do.
so you mean only abnormal people do that?
I wouldn't go so far as to say abnormal. Someone might be interested in you - it happens. Quite normal people might be interested, but in general people don't start to watch random people.
People may notice everything, or they may be oblivious. The thing is, they don't care. Sometimes whatever they notice registers in their minds for a half second and then something else grabs their attention. Goldfish.. we are all goldfish my friend.
That is the AI effect, have 'taught' us like that, we are all "Goldfish" we CANNOT do anything about it, even if we wanted to, a push button, swish society, AI have us by the neck, wallet, credit card, debit card, [whatever you hold most precious😣] no security, no privacy, no choice🤫
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whats so funny?
Your question is phrased rudely, we try to be nice to each other here.
I was responding to Maggie's comment.
i dont think it was that rude...its was a genuine question
Okay, thanks.
Could it be that you have a super-power?
Is that question directly at me? Lol
Yes. I have thought it a few times.
are you serious or just clowning me?
Honestly, Eric, A bit of both because treating your so-called problem like it's actually a super-power would give you a positive spin on it, that you might find helpful.
i want to hide my hyper vigilance..not shed light on it
It's your secret, isn't it? You don't have to share.
i'm not quite sure what you mean...
Your hypervigilance as a superpower. Your secret.
its a curse not a triumph...no i dont consider it to be helpful in any way
Like people with supernatural powers - they too consider them a curse.
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