Intimidated

[sad_watermelon]

I decided to try a singing class. I found a teacher from my native country and I called her and she was so nice. So I decided I could just try to see how it’s going, because I always wanted to learn how to sing. And since I couldn’t find people in my university, I guess it will be better to do the lessons than staying alone at home.

The problem is that the teacher wants me to prepare 2 karaoke songs for the first lesson and sing them to her. I can’t sing (that’s why I am taking the lessons) but just the idea of singing badly in front of a person I nearly know terrifies me. I feel so intimidated with this. I have no problem with talking in public, but singing is something else. My anxiety is building even though I haven’t booked a class yet.

[Turnipgirl]

Last week I felt intimidated and out of place when I went for a job interview at a Mercedes dealership as the motors were £130000 a go!

[hypercat54]

I'm not surprised as anyone would be intimidated by this unless they were a singer in the first place. I would look elsewhere to be honest. This is ridiculous.

[sad_watermelon in reply to hypercat54]

I thought this was a support website…

[hypercat54 in reply to sad_watermelon]

??? I am just agreeing that its very intimidating being asked to do all that. Not sure why you think my reply isn't supportive?

[sad_watermelon in reply to hypercat54]

I thought you said my idea of trying the lessons is ridiculous and I should look for other things to do, I’m sorry 😔

[hypercat54 in reply to sad_watermelon]

Oh dear. No wasn't at all and sorry if it came across like that. I think it is ridiculous being asked to do karaoke songs like that when you want to learn to sing in the first place.

Its a very positive thing to do but maybe a different teacher?

[sad_watermelon in reply to hypercat54]

Well, she was very nice on the phone and also is the only person from my country here. She said she just wants to see my techniques to know what to work on and I understand it, but I am still terrified

[hypercat54 in reply to sad_watermelon]

I will just say nothing worthwhile is ever easy. Also when you get a lot older like me its not the things we fail at but the opportunities missed which is the cause for regret. Good luck.

[sad_watermelon in reply to hypercat54]

Thank you

[Turnipgirl in reply to hypercat54]

In regard to myself I would rather wish I had never taken opportunities like wishing I had never gone to work at that scabby care home where I was put down and shouted at than wish I had taken it and wondering what might have been!

Then there was the pharmacy when they were unfair towards me and I was extremely upset and angry when it didn't work out there and now I'm glad I'm not there anymore same as the care home and I can remember crying when that job finished wishing I had never taken it but I would rather cry wishing I hadn't taken opportunities than cry wishing I had and wondering what might have been!

[hypercat54 in reply to Turnipgirl]

You are still young. You forget the bad things and realise they have helped form your character and wisdom. You remember only the opportunities missed then.

[Turnipgirl in reply to hypercat54]

Yes things like the scabby care home and that pharmacy I do feel brought me some life lessons in not taking things in desperation and also not to go near those employers again!

[hypercat54 in reply to Turnipgirl]

Yes. I am a good 20 years older than you and you will understand when you get closer to my age. I now find myself saying to my dead parents, yes you were right about old age, I understand now and apologise to them! Lol

[Turnipgirl in reply to hypercat54]

Thing is the opportunity to reach old age isn't guaranteed to anyone is it?

I know quite a few people who won't get that opportunity as they died young.

[hypercat54 in reply to Turnipgirl]

No its not unfortunately. There are no guarantees in life. You pays your money and takes your chances. That's the best we can do.

[MadBunny in reply to sad_watermelon]

I was about to say that -as the teacher explained, they need to do what is known as a baseline assessment - to get an idea of your level and plan a personalised programme . I get that you feel scared and don't want to 'sing badly' in front of her but she will have met students of all levels of ability, including nervous ones and she won't judge you . She'll understand you are terrified and I'm sure she will do her best to put you at ease ( I speak as a retired teacher myself ) I had singing lessons for a year when I was a student. Tbh I didn't like singing solo in front of anyone, but persevered with it.

Deep breaths, choose simple songs which you know well , you can do it !

[Turnipgirl in reply to MadBunny]

Those music teachers have seen and heard it all before haven't they?

I did music at GCSE level many years ago and got Grade E!

How are you and Dylan doing?

Baby is great and still getting spoilt!

Its Poppy the beagles 5th birthday party on Saturday which I am looking forward to!

Poppy is the canine equivalent of Baby!

[MadBunny in reply to Turnipgirl]

Oh yes they have 🙂We're both OK thanks .

[Turnipgirl in reply to MadBunny]

Poppy the beagle gets her own ton of fruit and veg bought for her!

[gettingsomewhere]

Hi I think your teacher needs to build up your confidence and practice slowly like learning a new instrument.

My daughter took singing lessons and learnt like this...repeating notes scales then phrases well before singing a song solo off pat.

Have a think about what you need.

I would find her expectation intimidating as well