It really hurt

[Thistooshallpass7]

that only one person responded to my last post. Not that I’m guilting anyone because I know we all have different things going on but I guess I turned to the community for help and felt alone still. One of the reasons why I don’t talk to anyone is because I feel like I am a burden and if my posts are burdening to anyone I am truly sorry. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Feel like giving up

[MidnightBriarRose]

Hello, ThisTooShallPass7. I am so sorry you are going through so much, but I want you to know that you are not alone! I care about what you’re going through and would like to help you. Please feel free to PM me, if you would like to talk privately.🌹

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to MidnightBriarRose]

Thank you so much . This means a lot

[gajh]

I am glad you are here sharing how you felt.

[Sugaree]

hi, I read your first post and I see you are in a stressful situation. I knew quite a few young women in your situation. Guys don’t really change when they are that abusive. Deep down inside is a stronger part of you. Use that inner strength and get you and your baby out of that environment. I don’t believe you’re any of those nasty things he tells you. Sending you a big hug and hope to see you posting with updates. I care and so do many others here. 🙏🏻

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to Sugaree]

Thanks a lot. I’m trying to keep positive and get in the mindset of doing it alone but it’s so hard. He’s not affectionate, he doesn’t check in, he calls me fat and old I’m so tired. I really appreciate this because I’m struggling

[Sugaree in reply to Thistooshallpass7]

hi, just saw your reply. Wishing you a better day today, in my prayers.

[Thistooshallpass7]

how are you feeling today

[Midori]

Don't give up. Different folk are on at different times of day and sometimes they have to take a day off because of other commitments, It's just the way the world wags; sometimes a lot of us are here, and sometimes not.

Cheers, Midori.

[Alpakka123]

I understand this hurt. For me it has to do with looking to others for validation -- validation that what I'm feeling is okay, validation that I'm a good person, validation that no one is mad at me because if I think that people might be mad at me I connect it to me not being an okay person. Do any of these feelings sound familiar to you? It's really exhausting to feel all this. It comes and goes in severity. I had a revelation the other day, and it was that I need to learn to be okay with my own company. That it's okay if no one is around to validate me because that's actually not their job. That's my job. My job is to validate myself.

That said, I didn't see your first post. Even if I had, I would have only responded if 1. I identified with it and/or 2. I felt I could contribute in some way. There can be umpteen reasons why someone doesn't respond to a post; the above reasons are mine. Someone once told me that more people see a post than respond to it. So, you aren't being ignored.

I'm sorry it hurts, though. I hope something in here helps comfort you.