Panic over change

[Shysteve]

Hi good morning to one and all and hope you're all well(or as well as can be expected I've majorly dropped the ball today,I've been signed off sign unfit for work since December,,in this current climate I've felt the need to get back to work (as the savings are almost gone)anyway I applied for a job last week and had an interview,all went well and they offered me the job there and then ( to start a week's trial today "Monday")woke up after a very unsettled night to find myself physically sick at the thought of going to this new place of work,I'm not sure or even know where to describe where these feelings are coming from but I've ended up not going as I was still being unwell at the time I was supposed to start ,so there's my quandary is this a natural thing to be fearful of meeting new people being around new people who are going to judge me over the next week or so at least,I've taken my medication and only now stopped enough to be able to write the message, sorry for the long rambling post just needed to get that off my chest and try and make some sense of it all,thanks steve

[worthytobeloved]

Oh, Steve, I so empathise and sympathise with how you must be feeling. It's so scary to go back to work after a long time off work. It's not just the work - it's the new environment, new people, etc. Firstly, congratulations for being brave enough to apply for the job, and well done for getting it! It's virtually impossible to get a job in the UK nowadays, so you must have done well.Can I ask though, are you sure you feel ready to go back to work? The last thing you want is to set back all the healing you have hopefully had while off work.

Please do keep us updated, and don't be too down-hearted - you're not the first that has happened to, and you won't be the last.

Once again, we'll done for applying and getting the job. But YOU and your health are the most important of all. Very best wishes and lots of love. xxx

[Shysteve in reply to worthytobeloved]

To be brutally honest it's probably a bit early for me to return to work but it's more of a needs must as I have a family to support,it also kind of goes against the grain for me not to be working as I've worked since I was 16 up until December last year,I'm just feeling like a complete failure as I can't Forse myself to get up and on with it,it's just all a bit alien to me, again thank you for your kind words of support it really does mean the word

[worthytobeloved in reply to Shysteve]

Look at it this way, you've taken a major step forward by applying and getting the job. Well done you! Could you still go to that job? If not, take some time to heal, and start again when you're ready. Look at the success of being brave enough to go for it, and the achievement of getting it. Maybe it wasn't meant to be - perhaps there's something better out there!

[Shysteve in reply to worthytobeloved]

Thanks again for speaking sense,like I was saying it's just all alien to me , believe it or not I've been head hunted several times in the past for jobs in America and Germany,so I know I used to be good (sorry that sounds so big headed)I guess I just don't want to let my family down with not being able to support them best wishes

[worthytobeloved in reply to Shysteve]

Wow, Steve - there you are - to be head-hunted in the past is something to be so proud of! At the moment you're going through a difficult time, but I believe you will succeed. In the meantime, take care of yourself and stay the wonderful person you are!

[Shysteve in reply to worthytobeloved]

Thank you ,I don't suppose it's bad for the "dull deaf kid "who'll never become anything as I was told in school,I guess that pushed me to become the best engineer I could over the years

[worthytobeloved in reply to Shysteve]

Yes, all we can do is do the best we can. I still think you were so courageous to apply for the job, and it's a feather in your bow that you got it!!!

[Shysteve in reply to worthytobeloved]

Thanks for the support

[gettingsomewhere]

Hi Steve...congratulations on getting that job, brilliant news!

I certainly understand, was made redundant from a good job after 25 years...what a shock and then having to sign on which due to a very unsympathetic work coach was completely humiliating.

I can remember feeling exactly the same as you, sick with worry and in my late 50s but I knew I had to do it. If not now, then when?

I guess I'm good at bluffing what I really feel and started with a little humour like " I'm the new girl"...the thing is everyone is new at some point and we all need to learn and adapt to change.

It doesn't stop us from feeling the way we do and it's entirely understandable.

I was pleased I returned to work, it helped me regain confidence and learn new skills as well as earn money. I was surprised it didn't take too long to settle in.

All the very best.

[Shysteve in reply to gettingsomewhere]

Thanks for your kind words