New & socially anxious

[Ml601]

Hello im new here i found myself feeling more down than usual today and found this support group. Im depressed but my major problem is my social anxiety. Im so tired of being this way im at thepoint i hate being me i wish i was normal. I want to be happy and with anxiety will never let me be. Im so weird im horrible in social situations i avoid people i get so nervousand worry about talking to people. I cant get a job because i cant work up myself to go to an interview and i cant even imagine how i would even handle a job. Well there is way more but i just needed to vent a little. Thanks

[Agora1]

MI601, I'm glad you found this forum. There are many on here with Social Anxiety who can share their thoughts and ideas in going forward without feeling nervous talking with people. At least on the forum you can feel safe in expressing your fears and concerns and getting comfort and understanding back in return.

I hope you will feel comfortable enough to allow us to know more about you and how we can help you in becoming who you really are and want to be. You are never alone. xx

[Ml601 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Im glad i found it to. I made an appointment to see a psychiatrist today so im a little nervous but over all I know I need it. I tried dealing with it without medication but I just can't take it anymore.

[Agora1 in reply to Ml601]

Good Luck with your appointment today but continue using the forum for support in finding other methods to help along with your medication. x

[Ashley228]

I know exactly how you feel I too have social anxiety. And have all the same feelings you mentioned. I avoid people and hate talking to people, I even hate going to checkout bc I don't want to talk to the cashier! I wish everyday I could be "normal" but what is normal anyway!

I know its hard to be around people you don't know, but you have to push yourself and not let your anxiety take over. Otherwise it can ruin you. I let it get the best of me for years and I'm still trying to overcome it. Seeing a psychiatrist is a great step in the right direction!

It made me feel better to get things off my chest, also talking to others who are going through the same exact situation made me feel even better to know I'm not alone and neither are you

[Ml601 in reply to Ashley228]

Thanks I know I can't let it control me but it's just so hard. In those moments i tell myself "you can do this everyone does this you don't have to feel this way your just as good as everyone else " but then i find myself over analyzing everything I do what im going to say and it just sucks. My appointment got canceled today which made me feel down I was kind of excited to talk to someone and get some help. Im now going next monday which isn't to far but I cant help it Im such an inpatient person Im anxious about this weekend now because people are supposed to come over. I just want to hide out and I know people think im weird and I don't expect them to understand but knowing they'll be judging me puts me more on edge. Well thanks for replying and letting me know im not alone. I really appreciate it.

[Ashley228 in reply to Ml601]

I totally relate to you! Everything you say is exactly how I think and feel about things. It’s a difficult thing to deal with. Some days I let it take over and just accept it. I tense up when I have to go to a birthday party or anything social related. I just want to runaway and hide too and fear people judging me. I hope you find some relief in some way. You’re appointment is only a couple days away! The weekend will be over before you know it! Hang in there! You can message me anytime it’s nice to have someone who understands and won’t judge you

[Ml601 in reply to Ashley228]

Really your the first to completely relate I know there are many people that feel the same as I but I've never actually talked to or met anyone. Thank you so much you can also message me if you ever need to. Im not sure if I'll have the best advice some days but I will always listen and never judge.

[Ashley228 in reply to Ml601]

I haven’t met anyone either! I think bc no one really talks about it, u unfortunately

Thank you too 🙂

[susand6463]

I'm new here. My name is Susan. I can relate to everything everyone is saying. Feel free to message me, as we are all in this together. My anxiety is worse than ever, every little problem is a major catastrophe and I find myself wanting to roll up in a ball and rock myself to feel better. I'm sooo tired of trying to explain why I'm not present at family gatherings, nor do I want to host my family at my place. I feel ostracized and alone. I wish I felt the way I used to feel. I used to be beautiful and confident. I was a teacher for 22 years who had to retire early because the panic attacks made me miss work. Now I bring in nearly half of my salary, have no medical insurance because I make too much to qualify for Medi-Cal. My old confident, competent self is gone. My self worth is less than zero and I see no improvement in sight. The doctors I've seen refuse to prescribe a benzo which is the only thing that has worked at keeping the anxiety at bay. Help!!!!!!!