Is there any point in life after 60???

[Cb1963]

I suppose I've had the best part of my life now, it now seems I'm in the hospital system for various ailments and now throw in toothache for good measure. I've had a somewhat complicated life, and being a ♎️ Libra I try and balance the scales of life, I could write a book about my hectic life, and all the ups and downs, been single for several years, don't go out, and never used a dating site, yes being alone is peaceful, but I'm unsure if I could try to build a new relationship, so stuck in a rut.

I've got a couple of older children who I see occasionally, and have been an absent parent in their younger days, yes there's a back story to even missing out on their lives.

Had numerous health problems, but I'm still pretty fit and active I suppose, but don't know how to deal with getting older with these new ailments, there's no book on getting old, yet I still feel like a peter pan, it's my body that's letting me down and I struggle to get my head around it.

I've had a hard working lifestyle and all the grafting has started to give me these ailments, and a couple more conditions that require further investigations at the hospital,I don't sleep very well, and wake up feeling like I've done 10 rounds with Mike Tyson, I physically ache, boy, the years have flown by, yes it's been an interesting journey so far, and the clock ticks faster as you get older 🤣 dunno what the next little surprise this body is going to throw at me, it's certainly not getting easier, and after Saturdays "experience " having a colonoscopy has certainly been a very uncomfortable procedure, which failed due to the amount of pain I was in, I'm now getting another one done, and I'm really not looking forward to round 2, even under sedation, boy, I can ramble on hopefully you'll get my drift, and the government wants you to work until 67, 😒 hmm , somehow that's on the back-burner for me,who knows what the future brings 🫣

[secrets22]

I cant really agree or disagree because i do feel life has left me behind somewhat, I pretend i enjoy life but i really don't, in fact i have never been so unhappy in my life.

[Cb1963 in reply to secrets22]

Yes I've read many of your posts and you are such a sincere chap, and I admire your honesty, we try and put ourselves into the other persons life and try and understand how they are feeling and perhaps we don't truly understand their difficulties, putting on a " show" or an act around friends and portraying a totally different way of life on how you feel. I came across the Freddie Mercury song bohemian rhapsody and its a very complex story, the words leave you with more questions than answers, perhaps his life and many other song writers often leave a mark upon life through thier eyes and minds, we like the music but look into the depths of songs it's just a snippet of what they want us to believe, some songs often hit the right chord with us, and other songs have no meaning, or perhaps I can't understand their particular outlook, oh well I'm just in a world of my own and maybe take life more seriously, maybe technology and social media has pushed my head into different places, and I'm not really looking towards the future as I feel people will be ignored, lack of contact and your life run by computers and AI and getting scammed, thanks for your reply!

[secrets22 in reply to Cb1963]

We like the music but dislike the words, and this is how i feel, and i often feel spending so much time on my own is rather soul destroying, having no one to share what the day has chucked up leaves me quite agitated at times, and i seriously thought about having a lodger but then i think better of it, i just know it would 'nt work. As things are i can eat when i like, go to bed when i like, and do anything when i like, I'm not saying its ideal, but it is what it is.

[Cb1963 in reply to secrets22]

Yes its like being trapped, it's just trying to make the most of what you've got!! Take care, as always a true gentleman, and I think the word" gentle" man is your perfect title 😊🫡

[Millie09]

Totally ! .. I try to live as to what I think is my best life.. but deep down I also know my best life i f I ever had one 🤔 has been and gone, I just feel like a spare part now not fitting in with anywhere really other than feeling like I'm disappearing .. I get anxious most days ,really wanting to grab life and get involved but my body won't allow ,my mind also is full of bad thoughts most days .. going on holiday in June took me out of daily chores but even that made me upset knowing what my life used to be like .. so yes .. I feel life is pretty much done and dusted

[Arymretep]

I have to say 60 is young these days, the new 40 so they say lol, as someone well past that (76) I know how you feel, this year has been particularly hard with both me and my other half in and out of hospital , im still recovering from a emergency operation.

It’s so hard isn’t it, I also had chronic pain so some days I can’t do much at all, but I do try and count my blessings,I love my garden and being online helps so much to keep in touch with life, when I was in hospital I saw so many worse off than myself , so try and live each day as it comes, good or bad ,take care 😳

[Cb1963 in reply to Arymretep]

Aw I'm sorry you're having difficulties, life can be a grind, I hope things pick up for you and your other half improves soon, thank you for your reply 😊

[Arymretep in reply to Cb1963]

Thank you, my OH had a colonoscopy last year and was dreading it, but he had sedation and he said it wasn’t as bad as he thought it would be, hopefully sedation will help you next time.

My Mum used to say, “ The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak” now I know exactly how she felt lol 👍

[Millie09 in reply to Arymretep]

So sorry your having a difficult time , I too suffer chronic pain , plus sciatica so I'm restricted most days , I do love your mentality Arymretep , wishing you the very best Linda

[Arymretep in reply to Millie09]

Thank you Linda, chronic pain is so soul destroying isn’t it, I have fibromyalgia and osteoporosis like you and it gets you down, I have recently discovered “Stoicism” which has helped me a lot, it’s trying to accept whatever comes to us and that whatever it is it’s how we deal with it that counts and helps us get through.

[Millie09 in reply to Arymretep]

Thank you for your kind words Arymretep, yes I have osteoarthritis in both hips amd left knee opus neuropathy and bone degeneration of the spine my list could go on .. my friend has fibomyalgia and some days she is so fatigued so I know how you feel .I've never followed that stoicism.. I must re think my ways ,I shall try that..thank you so very much 😊

[Arymretep in reply to Millie09]

It’s worth reading up on, take care👍

[Millie09 in reply to Arymretep]

Absolutely 💯! You too 😊

[CLB1125]

I am 66 and wonder what I am still here for. My body sh*t out on me 20 years ago. I grew up a farmer’s daughter and now a farmer’s wife. The years of farm work has destroyed my back. Nobody seems to care in the medical field. Won’t give me pain meds, I might get addicted, at my age who cares!! So I sit and watch life go by. Wishing I could join in. I have flowerbeds so overgrown with weeds but can’t do anything about it. I don’t want to run a marathon, just be able to walk to the mailbox. If this is how the game is going to be played, I don’t want to play anymore.

[Cb1963 in reply to CLB1125]

Aw I feel really sorry for you, I've worked on a small holding around different animals, but the animals were used by the owners, horses and ponies, but I really enjoyed taking care of them , yes it's horrible dealing with conditions because you've grafted so hard and long hours I bet!Manual work is physically demanding, I've worked on building sites and did my bit in the forces as well, I reflect on how fit I was, but even changing a quilt cover had me having an argument with it 🤣 it wasn't much fun, boy I suppose I can laugh at it, next task is hanging the other one from the washing machine, I'm not going to do a basil fawlty and whip the car with a branch 🤣 but I might have to have word with it, you take care and keep in touch 😀

[Millie09 in reply to CLB1125]

Oh I'm so so sorry to hear all of your issues especially round the mobility part ..I get annoyed mostly with myself when I can't do things or walk as far as I wanted without being in pain .I am taking pregabalin for my nerve pain in both legs , neuropathy caused from drinking too much alcohol , thing is I used alcohol to keep away my awful anxiety's and depressions due to an abusive ex , thing is ,now I'm older I can see how little I must have thought of myself back then amd allowed this T### of a so called man get away with it .

Pity he don't show his face to me now as I'd knock him for six lol .

Please try not to give up the fight so to speak , I know I can't talk as I have very bad days myself ,really hoping to nice next year closer to family as I'm sure that will do not just me but my sister the world of good . I'm off to feed my 3 crazy cats now .. I'm sure they keep me sane lol .

Tc .. my very best.. Linda

[Cb1963 in reply to Millie09]

Right ho, give them cats some cat nip , it's utter madness watching them getting " high" and put afro man on in the background 🤣Yes I'm on pregabalin myself 300mg twice a day, no argument with the other bedding thank goodness 😅 have a great day!!! 😊

[Millie09 in reply to Cb1963]

Lol , oh its just hilarious when cats have cat nip, I've got one of them permanent cat nip rolle balls stuck on the wall , one cat licks it whilst my other two roll their face on it 🤣.. yes im on 150mg x 3 per day ,tried coming off them but nope ! Them legs of mine just couldn't handle the pain .. Have a great evening Chris 😀

[Cb1963 in reply to Millie09]

Thanks 👍 😊