Is it just my imagination and paranoia?

[EricJones]

I have a big window in the room I live in. When I have my blinds up I can see the incoming traffic (intersections). I'm wondering do you think anyone looks up at me through their cars when my blinds are up or is that not what people do?

[Vonus5591]

Change for good curtains as will put your mind at ease

[EricJones in reply to Vonus5591]

What? I didn't understand your message.

[Vonus5591 in reply to EricJones]

If you don’t want blinds and then you can get curtains for the window

[EricJones]

I want to get over my fear that others will be looking up at me. So, I put the blinds up. What I want to know is if people look at me or stick to what they're doing in their cars and what's happening on the road.

[Vonus5591 in reply to EricJones]

For safe driving they concentrate on road only

[EricJones]

And not on some random stranger on the second floor in a random house? lol

[CLB1125]

people are too busy with things they are doing to look in windows. Besides most of the time the reflection on the glass prevents anyone from seeing anything.

[EricJones in reply to CLB1125]

Smart person, you are.

[Starrlight in reply to CLB1125]

I agree. And the distance too would make it hard to see even if the reflections didn’t block vision through the window.

[EricJones in reply to Starrlight]

Thanks, Guys. You're very helpful.

[Starrlight in reply to EricJones]

Good and I really hope the info will help you see things a bit differently when in front of your window.

[EricJones in reply to Starrlight]

Yeah, I'll assume people can't see in or don't care to.

[Starrlight in reply to EricJones]

Exactly, I believe both of these are true.

[Midori]

Unless the lights are on in the room, it would be extremely difficult to see into the room from the outside, blinds or not, as they are out in the brighter light, and also, I would hope, keeping their eyes on the lights and the other traffic.

Unless you stand right up at the window it would be extremely difficult to see in, especially if you are upstairs.

Cheers, Midori

[worthytobeloved in reply to Midori]

Really good comment!

[EricJones in reply to Midori]

So, I should relax and change my irrational thinking on the situation?

[Midori in reply to EricJones]

In one word Eric, Yes! You are putting far too much emphasis on other folk's doings; when the truth is, if they take any notice of you, it is fleeting, and soon forgotten by them.

Relax a bit, they have their own worries and concerns.

[EricJones in reply to Midori]

You know it's not helpful to suggest someone to relax. Doesn't reduce the fear, but I understand what you're saying and am trying my hardest.

[Midori in reply to EricJones]

I stand corrected. Thank you.

Cheers, Midori

[designguy]

The reality is that no one is paying any or little attention to you because they are caught up in their own thoughts and lives and going about their life. You might ask yourself why do you care so much what others think of you and start to investigate that. You are probably suffering from low self-worth and an inability to validate yourself and stand up for your self, there is a lot of good info on youtube about learning how to do this, I found the youtube and websites of Dr. Bernadette Sewell and Bernadette Logue to be very helpful for me.

[EricJones in reply to designguy]

I'll Check them out, thanks for these names.

[designguy in reply to EricJones]

You're welcome, hope you find them helpful. Another good resource is Emma at Therapy in a Nutshell on youtube, also you can do a search on youtube for "improving self worth and self esteem" and there will be a lot of good info/resources come up, it's amazing what all is on youtube anymore.

[Joseph46]

I think it’s a combination of both imagination and paranoia. When you are looking out your window it’s like watching the world on a screen (sorta). But from the perspective of the people driving and walking around the street, you are just another window with a light on. Unless you have something in your window to draw attention - likely that nobody driving or walking by even notices.

[EricJones in reply to Joseph46]

That was really helpful Joe. Thanks. Yeah, I'm assuming others don't care nor see me when they're riding past me. I assume now that they can't see in, nor do they want to.