Weekends are bad for me

[Browny71]

I work all week, I go to AA meetings I’m almost 12 yrs sober. On weekends however I have anxiety about starting the day with no plans. I feel depressed and anxious at the same time. I don’t know what to do. I lay on the couch waiting for time to go by in hopes that I feel better. I’m struggling for sure.

[bxgirlmom]

Browny I thought I was the only one who experienced this. I even googled “Weekend Depression” to see if it was a thing lol. I have two kids; they were in camp all summer which is great, but on the weekends they really look forward to doing family things. Now if we do something as a family, my husband always tries to push everything to start at 10/11am and usually we’re back home 2pm the latest. So imagine having 2 kids back home at 1pm in the afternoon with the sun going down by 730/8pm. It drives me absolutely nutssssss. I’ve asked him several times to please stop making early day plans and try to plan things for early afternoon instead. The difference of returning home at 4/5pm as opposed to 1/2pm is monumental trust me. It flares up my anxiety because then I have the kids for the rest of the day and I then have to make another outdoor activity (playground/dog park/ice cream etc) while he feels like he did his “part” for the day. It’s so frustrating. As I’m typing this I’m literally anxious as I’m preparing to take my youngest one outside (My oldest went to a sleepover). Today we did school shopping (uniforms, bookbag, sneakers) and had it not been that we needed to wait for a delivery, he was literally trying to force us outside by 10am. I know this isn’t exactly relative to what you posted lol, but I’m literally laying on my couch thinking about how I can break the day down faster. It just sucks when you’re with someone who doesn’t get it.

[Browny71 in reply to bxgirlmom]

B girl mom. I can understand and see that you want your husband to see your needs. I’m no expert on relationships I failed at one just recently. But hope things get better for you.

[bxgirlmom in reply to Browny71]

Oh I’m no relationship expert either. Why someone would ever want to marry me I have no clue to this day lol. Fingers crossed we find a “cure” for our weekend blues.

[Turnipgirl in reply to bxgirlmom]

With myself I prefer to have an early start and come back about 6pm when it's possible on a Saturday.

Coming back early on a Saturday drives me crackers as well!

[bxgirlmom in reply to Turnipgirl]

Thank you !! Hubby tried to turn the tables on me that I was just looking to “pick a fight” and the time of day doesn’t matter! We’ll just say that’ll be his last Saturday rushing us out the house lol.

[Browny71 in reply to bxgirlmom]

😂

[mizzou7016]

Congratulations on your sobriety. It is hard work...proud of you....sometimes it is nice to have the knowledge of not having anything planned...can allow you to do things throughout the day as they blip across your radar.....I struggle because my weekend is in the middle of the week and I always have something planned for at least 1 of my days off. just find things you enjoy....

[robin0507]

another weekend blues expert here.. what has worked for me is to plan at least a full day or evening of one main activity like for example going to the garden. And hey sometimes you are not going to feel like going anywhere just push yourself a bit and I hope you’ll see the reward

[Browny71 in reply to robin0507]

Thanks robin

[robin0507 in reply to Browny71]

Of course and as I read this I am back in my cave. I got myself to get out today but couldn’t handle it once I was out there so I came right back to bed. I had tickets for a small event

[Browny71 in reply to robin0507]

I like this site because we can understand each other here. I spent a few hrs sleeping. I have so much to do at the house like cleaning and can’t get myself to do it. I’m tired of it. But I want to keep a positive mindset and know that feelings don’t last forever. Hopefully you can try a new event soon.

[robin0507 in reply to Browny71]

thank you this morning I was able to do some cleaning and I'm donating some stuff. That should help me clear up some space ... in my mind. I am now feeling my anxiety building up so I took my med and I am taking a break before I make a big move to break free. I think I am now aware of what has been holding me and I'm just getting ready to release it.

[fauxartist]

Congratulations on the 12 yrs. sober.... and as far as idle time.... that's when I found it to be tough, my head starts ruminating and It's easy to slide down a slippery slope. Have you thought of finding any group stuff you might like to do?... I did all kinds of stuff...card games, pot lucks...sober get-togethers....you know the drill.... or even arts and crafts, cooking, clubs that do stuff like hiking, photography, small sightseeing trips...anything that keeps you happy and busy.

[Browny71 in reply to fauxartist]

I try to go out with the group after meetings for a bite. I don’t know how to go about finding the activities you mention, but I’m open to it. Like today is my day off it’s Sunday and I went to church in the morning. Then I came home and doing laundry now. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

[fauxartist in reply to Browny71]

I asked around at the meeting and checked the billboards at the clubs, I found Thurs. bingo, weekend potlucks and for hobbies and hikes I just keep searching the internet in my local area. I also have artistic outlets that keep my brain buzy. Just keep lookin....best advice I can give you...eventually something will interest you. I found that what I'm passionate about is painting....so that's my Zen place...

[Joseph46]

Interesting. This idea of weekend anxiety and depression. I work Monday to Friday and I find Saturday and Sundays my days off are the absolute worse. I dread my days off because I know I will feel lonely and down. Try to keep myself busy but the time seems to go so slowly. I have not had a drink in 8 months. I just moved to a small rural town where there is literally nothing to do. I wanted out of a big city but this is killing me. All most people do here is drink to pass the time. I don’t know a soul outside of work.

[Browny71 in reply to Joseph46]

good for you with not drinking for 8 months that’s a long time. I too moved from Los Angeles to a smaller town. I was used to the business and noise. Here I can hear a pin drop and it’s isolating and ridiculously depressing. I hear you Joseph. We are in the same boat.

[Turnipgirl]

What I find is a quiet weekend can be a nice relaxing treat when the week has been busy and hectic and there's not much to do but on other occasions I can find when they come round they can feel depressing.

Yesterday it was Sunday and we decided not to go out to Sunday lunch to save money and at first I felt upset and angry as it's something nice to look forward to but took the sting out of the disappointment by booking for one in a couple of weeks time which gives us something to look forward to!