Dread weekends

[Grady80]

For some reason I’ve come to dread weekends. I don’t want to go out, nor does being home makes me any happier. I don’t understand why I feel this way now. I’ve always looked forward to the weekends. Now, it’s depressing me and I wish I could go back to the old me. I don’t know if it’s COVID, but I’m afraid that eventually I’m not going to want to go out at all. How do I get this to go away?

[Gazelle59]

Covid is my nightmare, I never was a person to go out with friends, but I had a boyfriend for 18 yrs who was my best friend, we did everything together so I never had other real friends, just like regular tennis friends, and he just passed away to Covid ~ a week ago and now I feel so lonely and empty, like I lost everything! I have social anxiety, so I stay home and try to keep busy. And today I joined this site.

[Hidden in reply to Gazelle59]

I am so sorry to hear about your boyfriend. That's awful.

Welcome to the site, though😊

[Gazelle59 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you dear 💜

[Wizardsmom in reply to Gazelle59]

Im so sorry.

[Grady80 in reply to Gazelle59]

I’m truly sorry for you loss.

[Gazelle59 in reply to Grady80]

It means a lot to me, thank you 💕

[Hidden]

I've come to dread nighttime; I always get anxious when they comes about. I have a neurological syndrome that can keep one out of bed. I went through a very traumatic time a few years ago when (no joke) I was unable to lie down every single night for the better part of a year. This is where my nighttime anxiety comes from. Did something happen to bring this about for you?

[Grady80 in reply to Hidden]

I don’t really know, maybe because I don’t have much to keep me occupied on the weekends. I’ve had quite a few panic attacks over the weekend but I don’t really know if that’s related. It maybe because I don’t get much time away from my husband which is a source of my anxiety

[Operalady in reply to Grady80]

Find interests away from home. It’s not healthy to be stuck at home! Got to cultivate interests

[Operalady in reply to Operalady]

Got to cultivate interests !

[Wizardsmom]

I have a hard time with Sundays, especially Sunday night. I think it is because my week starts again on Monday with appointments and my husband goes back to work. Knowing what is causing my anxiety helps a little...it gives it less power.

[Operalady]

Hi I force myself to go power walking with a friend! We get some lunch and hit a few goodwills! I come home feeling physically great into the evening! Force yourself to walk, run , weight train. You will feel so much better.!!!!

[Grady80 in reply to Operalady]

I walk daily. And hang out with my daughter but lately It’s something about the weekend that triggers anxiety for me. I guess when I figure out why it’ll pass.

[Operalady in reply to Grady80]

The weekend signals a time for you to enjoy but if you have nothing like hobbies what can you do to enjoy. Need hobbies!

[Grady80 in reply to Operalady]

I’m so exhausted from being so busy during the weekday I used to look forward to the weekend to rest unless I have something planned. I’m new to feeling this way.

[SuZQ154 in reply to Grady80]

You are very good at identifying that you are exhausted! What about the week is making you feel this way? MIght those causes of your exhaustion be triggering your feelings about the weekend? HUGS and blessings to you!

[Operalady]

Hi Grady80 how are you doing?i am checking in to see how you are!

[Operalady]

For me , I try to surround my self with beauty! Planting , music, good books!! Life is tough we must keep the beauty up. Nice lip stick, nice clothes, carry oneself nicely!

[Grady80 in reply to Operalady]

Thanks for checking in on me. I’m doing ok, this weekend wasn’t so bad. I actually decided to work this weekend so it distracted me. I’m going to figure this out one way or another.

[SuZQ154 in reply to Grady80]

Just touching base to see how you are doing. Are you working this weekend?

[Grady80 in reply to SuZQ154]

Yes, I’m working this weekend, I prefer being distracted for now. Thanks for checking in.

[SuZQ154 in reply to Grady80]

During these COVID times, distraction can be GOOD!

Hey, we've been listening to sermons on line and one gave these tips on how to cope with the pandemic.

1.Media distancing.

2.Do not engage with worry. Take action. Say, “Don’t take the bait.”

3.Focus on present odds.

4.Do not react to your own physical symptoms.

5.Focus on being productive and new ways of enjoying life.

6.Engage in stress reduction activities.

7.Do not go beyond the CDC guidelines. No compulsive hand washing.

8.Preserve some sense of normalcy.

9.Be kind to yourself and others and have FAITH!

10.Seek our professional help, if needed!

I have reread them many times and they have helped me. Hope they help you!

[Grady80 in reply to SuZQ154]

You know, I try to stay away from the media, and the more I try the more people come to me with all the negative things in the news or in their lives. I wash my hands and use sanitizer obsessively. I’m extremely worried. Since COVID I’ve had symptoms I’ve never experienced before. It’s tiring! How do I replace these things with positive?

[SuZQ154 in reply to Grady80]

What a good question! For me, I try a variety of strategies. I pray, read my Bible, ask friends for advice and opinions if I know they are reasonable and loving, exercise, eat right, journal, and move "forward."

When I prayed about how I shoud move "forward" a few months ago, I kept getting this message, "Make your house a home." SO, since then, I have been working outside doing landscaping, entertaining our family, especially the grandchildren, and friends here SAFELY, and updating and cleansing our house. It has made my attitude so much better.

Hope this helps! Blessings!

[LoveBear]

“Going back to the old me” I would love that too. I understand your feelings and recently trying to make a plan for one day of the weekend - a hike, a bike ride, kayaking - I’m pushing myself to do these and generally feel better after it. Start slow maybe just sit outside for 15 minutes and go from there. Keep me posited.

[Grady80 in reply to LoveBear]

It’s been years since I’ve felt this way, I’m feeling a lot I don’t understand lately. And thank, I will

[Marshall64]

Media distance. Love the term. I have been doing that as much as possible. I used to love reading and watching the news but it is nothing but negativity and politics.

I used to dread weekends and holidays. I'm a full time single father and would try to set up playdates and such. My daughter used to not have many friends and it would just be the two of us. Since then she has made many friends and can entertain herself.