Confused!! I don’t know how to let go and move on

[Thistooshallpass7]

I blocked the ex who cheated and lied to me but for some reason, even though I know he isn’t good for me , even though he has not been good to me, even though he got someone pregnant, didn’t tell me and I found out a year or more later, I’m still unable to switch my feelings off for him. He found a way to message me on Facebook begging me to be in his life and to speak to him and sadly I want to… how do I forget about this person who has totally destroyed me? Why do I still love him and question if I can make it work? What is wrong with me for having these thoughts and feelings ? Every day I get flashbacks of all the lies and memories and it hurts so much. Also, this may seem terrible but I’m actually jealous that he gets to have a family and I’m just left alone 😔. Every person I’ve ever cared for and loved has hurt and betrayed me… I hate this

[emmi331]

Don't judge yourself so harshly, judge him instead! And block him everywhere, including on all social media. If you allow him to keep intruding into your life, you cannot truly end this.

I hope that counseling or therapy will give you some insight as to why you not only pick out hurtful people to be part of your life, but also are still attracted to them like a moth to a flame when they should be long gone. It sounds like this man is not worthy of your love.

You do not need to keep "casting pearls before swine "....you deserve better!

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to emmi331]

thank so much for responding, I truly appreciate it. It has certainly been hard and I suppose part of me feels like I will not find anyone else. Not sure why

[emmi331 in reply to Thistooshallpass7]

The problem with that thinking is that it can lead to desperation, which in turn leads to more bad choices! There are worse things than being alone. 😎

[Thistooshallpass7 in reply to emmi331]

omg this is so trueee. I hope I get through this!

[Thistooshallpass7]

Like a therapist?