By the end of the month I am leaving 2000km away to do my university studies. New place, new people, new country, new culture, new language (I already speak it at least), alone for the first time in my life.
I am so scared and I overthink too much.
I'm panicking every single day.
youre about to enter the best years of life. nothing bad can happen - even if the worst you can think of like failing out happens, who cares. tons of successful people skimped on college. just go to class and no professor will fail you anyway. just enjoy.
I wish you luck and happiness! I know you are scared but work through it. It will be worth it! Fear held me back my whole life and I missed out on so many exciting opportunities because of it. Don’t let fear run your life. You take control and tell fear and anxiety to go fly a kite!!
You can do this! I'm sure you're scared, understandably so, but you'll meet new people, make new friends. Wishing you the best on your move!
First off, congrats on getting in and going! That's great!
Does it help to know that you are not alone in feeling nervous about going? It's a huge life change that many younger people worry about and struggle with.
Are there specific things you are worried about more than others? If you can identify things that you are most worried about, you might be able to address some of those things. Are you shy? Have you looked at all of the clubs your school offers? That can be a great way to meet new friends. Are you worried about getting your classwork done? Are you living in a dormitory? If so, you'll be around a bunch of other freshmen who also won't know how things work or where anything is . But Colleges are good at helping you figure it out.
Hopefully, soon after you get there you'll start to feel more comfortable, confident and better able to rely on yourself. If not, and you need some help, know that Colleges offer help for all sorts of problems. You can look on your University's website, the one for students, and dig around to see what services they have . They probably have tutoring, counseling, free health care, birth control and more.
The thing that scares me the most is the fact that the university doesn't say much until a week or two before the start of the school year. What I mean is, for the moment I don't know anything about clubs, classes, don't even know how many people are in my class (all my friends in my country know all of this). I don't even know when the school year begins for the new students! I tried to reach some other students, but they are in other facilities and are older so they couldn't help me with anything.
Also I am afraid that I will be left aside by others because I am not from this country. Yes, I know in university there are many foreigners, but a few people I know are students abroad and face this problem. I actually lived in the country I am going to for a few years and I went to school and yes, I had friends, but my friends always had better friends and they were the priority. I was always plan B. I don't want this to repeat.
I didn't realize your University was so different than the ones in the US. I'm surprised they don't have a website just for current students with a calendar, clubs, services ect listed. The Colleges here have mostly the same clubs every year and there are tons of them for all sorts of interests.....archery, star gazing, gardening, unconventional sports. That does make it harder to plan ahead and visualize what things might be like.
I do hope you end up meeting some people that you really click with that are looking for the same thing in a friendship that you are!!!
You’re not alone. I’m actually heading to university soon as well, moving pretty far. I’m also worried about friends. I’ve been to school outside of my country too, and I definitely understand the whole “plan B” thing. When this happens, I try to make new friends. Not leaving the others behind, but finding people who care about me more (which also makes it easier and more rewarding to care more about them). Keep in mind, there are a lot of fish in the sea in college.
I don’t have much real advise to give yet, but I wish you the best of luck in this exciting change!
Thank you! Bast of luck to you too!
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