SELF CRITICAL AND LACK OF BOUNDARIES

[SwamiBhakt123]

Wel always talk about boundaries. How ? When there is so much love to give! Inside me, you genuinely do that and then you realise the other person or a lot of people take d vantage of this! Disrespect you, talk. Insulting things. How should one deal with that?

[Dolphin14]

SwamiBhakt123

Boundaries are something that protect us from getting hurt.

If people are disrespecting you, setting a boundary is standing up for yourself and saying I won't be treated like this. It's up to them to follow your boundary and if they choose not to then doesn't that also show they don't respect you?

When someone really loves us and cares about us they will do the best they can to stay within the boundaries we make.

I'm not sure if that's a helpful answer or not

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[BubblesUp in reply to Dolphin14]

I got an audiobook from my library called “Set Boundaries, Find Peace” by Nedra Glover Tawwab and I found it so helpful.

”Healthy boundaries. We all know we should have them--in order to achieve work/life balance, cope with toxic people, and enjoy rewarding relationships with partners, friends, and family. But what do "healthy boundaries" really mean--and how can we successfully express our needs, say "no," and be assertive without offending others?”

[Dolphin14 in reply to BubblesUp]

BubblesUp

This sounds like a good book. Have you tried setting boundaries?

What I learned from my therapist is once I started there would be push back from some people. She sure was right!

Some relationships get strained but we are asking for respect and setting limitations. It's up to the other person to make some adjustments.... I think it's harder for them.

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[BubblesUp]

oh yes. I have set up boundaries and there definitely has been push back but I’ve held my ground. I can’t let people take advantage of me. It’s really helping ease my anxiety.