Is it all from self-worth distortions?

[LoveforAll41]

Does all anxiety and depression stem from distorted thoughts about self-worth?

I feel like a failure for not having a house, not exercising, not making more money, the list goes on. Then I get deeply depressed because I have to "earn" worth and that is impossible.

We get anxious about failing a test, because of the impact it could have to our self-worth? I am talking the anxious disorder type anxiety, not the good anxiety that would motivate us to study and learn and pass to save time and money and take some pride in our work.

We get anxious about going outside (agoraphobia?) because at some point that has become tied to our self worth and it becomes a downward spiral because we then lower our self worth more each time we plan to and do not go outside?

I struggle with an eating disorder because I feel bad about eating something that I don't feel will serve me or I didn't plan to eat, and then I feel worthless. Obviously very distorted thinking.

I read about Chester Bennington a bit because I know he had died by suicide, and he was sexually abused when he was young. That will skew anyone's self-worth.

So does anyone have anything they love that helps them with self-worth? I know there are workbooks and stuff. I like exercise, but it is not healthy often because if I don't exercise I feel worse.

I think acceptance of being average, or even below-average, is empowering for me because I don't have to be perfect (or try to be) to feel okay. I think the end goal is the "death of the self" where we don't need self-worth at all because there is no self that needs worth. I think that is a Buddhist concept...

[Vonus5591]

Some people say you should exercise every other day, ie have days off because too much exercise can cause reduction in muscle - I suppose we use our muscle too much it does not recover. But I'm old and find doing it with rest periods really helps me to keep it up.

Self worth, based on love, unconditional love for yourself and others helps to keep us more in tune with energy and triumphs in life. Mostly jobs, are about others valuing us and in turn we value ourselves, our self worth increases. But just to appreciate life, and all its ups and downs and our ability to cope should help increase our worthiness in our self. Coping and hope being biggest part of success and core to self worth as human being just being.

Some people can face what they are but what life does to us is another thing. Regard for yourself and peace of mind so important

[optimismrus]

Chemical imbalances may also contribute to our depression and anxiety. Despite that we can learn to love ourselves more. It sounds to me like you are searching for ways to change your thinking. Don't give up. Keep striving to improve. You will find answers and ways to practice loving yourself. Imagine that the little boy you were still lives inside of you. Comfort him. Tell him that you're an adult now, and you will always be there to love him. Back in the day this was called, "Inner Child" work. It helped me. 🥰