I cannot stand tittle tattle and bickering

[secrets22]

Funny old life when tittle tattle and bickering takes over your life, bad feeling and anger only really hurts the perpetrator and not so much the person its aimed at.

We all get times when a miss word can cause havoc and untold harm, and its far better to hang back on our immediate feelings of wanting to fight back, its no solution ,its always better to let it go, and in truth we only hurt ourselves. Of course we get angry and upset with things happening in our lives at various times but we should never let that spite out on the nearest in the vicinity, with often that is the person on the world wide web, in forums such as this.

I know that a recent spate on here was mainly due to the consumption of alcohol, If people can't handle their drink they should abstain totally, alcohol is demonic in a bottle.

I know from past experience how alcohol can ruin lives and i am just relieved that i now never touch it and life is better without it.

I also understand how people use alcohol as a crutch to alleviate anxiety, confidence and lack of self worth, but it only lightly touches the problem and doesn't solve the cause.

[Dolphin14]

Secrets22

This is such an important message. I agree with your thoughts

I came from a very dysfunctional family. I had a few siblings with drinking problems. I understand it's a serious illness and it saddened me to lose a brother to alcoholism.

I cut ties with him and a sister over their drinking. the behavior was more than I could handle.

It's a bandaid to a bigger issue. It's just so sad

❤️🐬

[hypercat54 in reply to Dolphin14]

Sorry to hear that Dolphin. It is a very serious disease I agree. 💗💗

[secrets22 in reply to Dolphin14]

hello Dolphin and thank you, and much like you i came from a problematic family ,and i so remember the rows when i would hide away. I believe its extremely important that people are made aware of how damaging alcohol can be.

[Dolphin14 in reply to secrets22]

Yes, that's why think a post like this is so important.

It's so much work for people to stop. Hats off to those in recovery.

[Nothing_but_books in reply to secrets22]

I remember a childhood filled with rows, me hiding and hoping futilely to be safe. In my case, no alcohol was involved.

Alcohol doesn't make everyone abusive, some it does. There are so many reasons -- or lack of discernible reasons -- we've been hurt, neglected and abused, we need this safe place to know another way exists.

[Arymretep]

I so agree, there is so much fuss about drugs when I think that alcohol is just as bad if not worse, so many families have been ruined by drinking .

[secrets22 in reply to Arymretep]

hello Arymetep, and i also think alcohol is as big a threat as drugs,

[Arymretep]

Yes I agree, I was so lucky none of my family were into alcohol, but I know many friends who have lost their homes through getting addicted to alcohol.

[Turnipgirl]

Last year when I got evicted they had builders in from the Monday in the March after mothers day weekend and I had times when I became upset and angry over the situation but to my credit I was always polite to the builders as they were polite to me in return and never took out any nastiness on them as they were only doing what they had been asked to do and had laughed when myself and my friend threw a bucket of water over the letting agent and told her to f off after she got nasty to shut her up all because she didn't get her way and they had said to me how she had more than deserved having that bucket of water tipped out over her!

Many years ago I was in my 20s and had a who was an alcoholic who had ended up losing everything and once I had slapped him across the face after he had said nasty things to me as there was no need for it and finished with him after that incident and it was the right decision!

[Arymretep]

Just in the Mail this morning a , drink driver who was three times over the limit drove into a car at 141 mph and killed an 8 month old baby and his 30 year old aunt.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Arymretep]

😢😢

❤️🐬

[secrets22 in reply to Arymretep]

Absolutely heart breaking.😢

[Nothing_but_books]

Wow eee wow. I skirted around it. You're right on target. Bingo.

[Midori]

It's taken me many years, I was an only child, so getting to grips with sarcasm, bitchiness et al was foreign to me as I had no siblings to fight with and gain the knowledge.

Naiive, certainly, ignorant of the way the world wagged definitely. I got hurt a Lot until I learned not to fight back, but instead let them have their shout, and just walk away, head held high.

I do try to defuse situations when I'm faced with them, but it often doesn't work. Still haven't totally learned the lesson.

Cheers, Midori

[Nothing_but_books in reply to Midori]

Reading what you wrote gave me words I never had.

I'm an only child too. I feel like, before now, I should have connected that to my lack of familiarity with how people do things, but I didn't.

As an adult, I don't think you can learn the things other people learned as children. Not adequately.

[Midori]

I agree; it can be hard.

Cheers, Midori