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I am working on creating a more positive life and this is what its looking like

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Look and see that

What we believe in, we create

Challenge negative notions

Make new positive I cans and it will bes

So much of the time what we view as being negative in our lives doesn’t have to be that way once we look at it from a new perspective. We can work on what are problems with a hopeful attitude trusting that things can work out.

Sometimes negatives form a cloud of fearful thinking that spreads and never will be truth at all and we waste time here...so do toss the what if’s and toss the nevers and toss should haves and cants.

Focus on what beauty can come to be, from positives noticed that already are and give yourself credit for every good thought and action we are making to see results that change how our lives are seen by us, what our new lives are made of.

Keep believing in what is the core of us; most important to us. Keep that light within shining out brightly like a star in the heavens.

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Agora1

Starrlight, keep turning those negative thoughts around.

It starts with one small step forward and grows into giant leaps and bounds.

You are on your way and I am there right with you. :) xx

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Starrlight in reply toAgora1

I feel your warmth and strength here with me, thank you sooooo. (((((((((Agora))))))))

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kenster1

hey star hat sounds good enough to me.

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Starrlight in reply tokenster1

Thank you ((((((((Kenster)))))))))

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kenster1 in reply toStarrlight

no worries star anytime.

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Sillysausage234

🌟..🙃 love that star

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Starrlight in reply toSillysausage234

Awww thank you ⭐️ 🙏 😊 Silly 🙃

Lovely Starrlight - just like your poem. You have a busy life with family so keeping positive is all important. Being there for them overrides the past. The children are your anchor and every time you laugh and have fun you are the centre of their world.

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What you wrote is beautiful and so right on. Thank you so much for that ((((((((Birmanblue)))))))))

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newbie1956 in reply toStarrlight

Starr, i agree w/ all these comments. Way-to-go !

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Starrlight in reply tonewbie1956

((((((Newbie))))))) thank you!!! 🙏 😊

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Just responding to my intuitions of the inner you..a big aura..

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Mrspjsmom

Love this! I try to be positive as much as I can. When my demons rear their ugly heads I have to remind myself but if being positive gives me a short period of peace I do it.

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Starrlight in reply toMrspjsmom

Go Mrspjsmom! Yeah it’s hard sometimes yes I know I too need reminders like right now I have a few negative thoughts/lies pop up but that’s when I can notice and change them to positive. I was just mind reading and tried to tell myself someone was thinking negatively of me but no that’s all me there. It’ll take time but if we work at it we will get there where positive is the main streaming of thoughts. I did it years ago (and must have slipped and had bad habits) so I know it can be done, just need to get back to it.

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Mrspjsmom in reply toStarrlight

Glad your getting back to it.

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lovetodance2018

This is beautiful, thank you for sharing. Positive self-talk is key. Learning to love and accept yourself just as you are is so important and staying in the present moment. These truths have really helped me. Along with saying I get to instead of I have to. Keep your inspirations coming.

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Starrlight in reply tolovetodance2018

Thank you ((((((lovetodance))))))) oh yeah you’re right being in the present is key along with the positivity and self love. I like how you change have into get to that’s so very positive and I want to remember that.

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lcs067

I just ran across this offering from the Great Courses series that I think I might get that sounds like it could be very helpful

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Starrlight in reply tolcs067

Great let me know how you like it.

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Sunshine425

Starrlight. You ARE a bright light.

Even when your not feeling as good as you hope, you show kindness for others. You are uplifting. I enjoy our conversations. 💫

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Starrlight in reply toSunshine425

Omg 😯 thank you so! I was sitting crying releasing the stress I have been holding when now I have more to be thankful for, you and your beautiful words. I needed that, Sunshine, you are the best !!!

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Sunshine425 in reply toStarrlight

Remember our quote.

Its okay to not be okay💕

Everything that you are is enough. I know what its like to doubt myself and feel really down ALL the time. It breaks my heart when I hear someone struggles internally the way I do. Because the pain and heart ache is real.

You are so compassionate and perfect just the way you are. You will face your fears when you are ready. You dont have to do EVERYTHING all at once.

PM anytime.

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Starrlight in reply toSunshine425

I’m already facing some fears. Yeah maybe the bigger can wait and I’ll try not to think of that it just tends to worry me and wreck the peace I do somehow find. I’m sorry you suffer so too. You are defiantly good enough; an amazing person right here and now. Ha I can’t tell if I’m okay probably not usually what even is okay I don’t know anymore. It’s all difficult and waiting for ease is terribly hard.

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Roxylox

Just lovely Starrlight

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Butterrfly

It’s so hard to think positive when for many years it’s been focusing on the negatives. I’m want to switch my focus on more positive thinking but my inner critic is still trying to get the better of me. Starrlight, how did you begin to start thinking positive and being to keep on that track?

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Nothing_but_books in reply toButterrfly

While Starrlight's away, I have a thought. Well, it's not actually my thought, I just read it on another post, but it resonated for me.

PsychologyOnions spoke about talking back to bad thoughts:

I'll say things like "Is that all you got, OCD? Is that the best you can do?? You've already tried to scare me with that before!"

I like that a lot better than hiding while the bully wins.

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Butterrfly in reply toNothing_but_books

absolutely, I totally agree with that, it’s like being in the wise mind, where I have my emotions from emotional mind and the facts from rational mind and then combining the two which comes to wise mind, thanks 😊

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Starrlight in reply toButterrfly

Practice every time there’s a negative thought noticed, replace it will a positive, and write a grateful list

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Butterrfly in reply toStarrlight

yes, like Opposite Action DBT skills. I’ll definitely try the grateful list and look at it every time I start to feel the negativity coming in, because I do have a lot to be grateful for, thank you 😊

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Nothing_but_books in reply toStarrlight

I like your advice, but there's a sticking point for me.

How do you notice the negative thought before uh... you know ?

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Starrlight in reply toNothing_but_books

For me, recently I catch myself when I start feeling sad or scared upset and I think ok what was I just thinking of? Sometimes the thought (s) are long gone but if you can know what triggered the negative feeling you can say ok that’s not true or let me restart.

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Nothing_but_books in reply toStarrlight

🌻 🦜

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