Hello, I'm a new member

[Molt_Maca]

It would be nice to read from people who have struggled with depression and anxiety and who have found ways to not only deal with both, but who have been successful at it.

I try my best to help myself, i.e. I cook my own food and eat healthy, I don't drink, have never done drugs, meditate, and in general live a healthy life.

My problem is although I'd like to meet people, have a group of acquaintances (small and well selected), I do nothing to achieve that. I am very lonely, it hurts and yet I don't do anything to change that. It seems like a huuuuge amount of work, time and effort have to be put into that and I give up before even doing anything about it.

I could say a lot more, but I guess that's what's on my mind most of the time.

[CCPM]

Hi. Welcome. I appreciate your desire to hear from people who have been successful at dealing with depression and anxiety. I often think that it would be great to have sponsors for these issues much like AA has sponsors for people dealing with addiction.

[Molt_Maca in reply to CCPM]

Hello CCPM, and thank you for your reply.

I couldn't agree more with you regarding a sponsor. I would really be open to hear from someone who went through something like what I am (and have gone) going through basically all my life.

I know we all feel things in our own, personal way, but knowing and talking to someone who has experienced similiar feelings (and found a way to stop feeling like this) would certainly make me feel there IS a light at the end of the tunnel.

[GodKid]

Hi. I'm no doctor, but maybe you could break down meeting people into baby steps? You know, like rating your fear scale from 1-10 and then doing something that is easy for you?

[Molt_Maca in reply to GodKid]

Hello GodKid, and thanks for your reply.

I actually don't have fear, it's just that the mere thought of trying to meet people simply drains the energy out of me.

I've moved a lot and everywhere I go it's the same: I'm the outsider, there are many things I dislike about the locals, I want to move to a different place, etc., etc., (dog chasing his own tail, really). Fact of the matter is I am alone and just don't see how that will change.

[Kainan]

Hey, and welcome. It seems like you have some healthy living habits and positive coping skills. I think it's great that you're looking to make connections and relationships for yourself. Participating on this forum is a wonderful way to begin to do just that. Friendships and relationships can blossom at any time and in ways we may least expect. You could put some effort into it, sure, but I think that when we are healthy and give off positive energy around us, we will naturally attract those people that we want into our lives. And that, can be said, is a gift.

[Molt_Maca in reply to Kainan]

Hello Kainan_li and thank you for your response.

I try to live a healthy life and force myself to keep "active" (shower, keep my house clean, go to work, etc) although most of the time I don't feel like doing any of those things.

I live alone and that's the way all my adult life has been. I am well aware of my age and that I am the only one who is here for me and always will be.

Finding friends is not easy, especially being an adult (very personal point of view) and I'm not sure I will get to meet one; I would settle for people who understand me to some extent, and with whom I could actually feel I can talk to because they will try to understand me.

[Kainan in reply to Molt_Maca]

You’re in the right place 🙂

[crowningglory19]

Yes, that is hard and the longer we wait the harder it becomes. Some people are taking magnesium and ginseng, since they calm the mind body and spirit and get rid of sticky negative thoughts. Also, helping others helps us too. You can find your best friends by joining a volunteer group that is like minded, too. It takes our mind off of our own problems. When you need distracted, put on a good funny show or audio to laugh, it is healing and helps a lot! Hoping you find some positive to focus on and breathe deep in peace and out sorrow. <3 It's great to join online groups of your interests too, that you also can meet in person, it's a gentler way to meet and get to know each other before meeting for a lunch or movie or coffee... =) <3