Feeling paranoid

[EricJones]

I'm at group therapy and I'm feeling really paranoid right now. More than usual. I'm afraid that someone will notice my paranoia and shame me for it ...thoughts?

[Downski]

if u in therapy now is it not for same reason? Y b ashamed about ur thoughts just way life is at times don’t b scared just do ur thing best u can my friend!!! Can b tough tho hope u can chill a bit

[EricJones in reply to Downski]

It's hard.,..for me to ignore what others are doing in their space

[Downski in reply to EricJones]

Is the therapist or group meetings too much maybe u need 1-1 meetings? At least u trying to fix the problem wish could help more!! Never easy

[EricJones in reply to Downski]

Yeah not easy....don't have too many options

[Downski]

same boat over here for me but I no therapist trying get sorted taking long time!! Frustrating

[EricJones in reply to Downski]

I have no therapist either...except for group therapy...where therapy is divided evenly between people lol

[cashew78]

Hello, hope you're navigating this as well as possible because it's not easy. I grew up being told to be ashamed of myself most of the time because it was implied that everyone is always a) watching me, and b) is out to get me on some level. It took me years to figure out that 99% of people just don't notice or care simply because they're engrossed with their own lives. That leaves everyone else, the people who would notice, in that one percent... and those are the folks like me who deal with the same issues and would notice it in others. If they're worth their salt, they'll not shame you for it because they understand it all too well. Good luck.

[EricJones in reply to cashew78]

So you're saying 99% of the world won't notice or won't care...and the 1% that notices will be understanding about it

[cashew78 in reply to EricJones]

yup, or at least I hope so. For me I know I get tunnel vision in the situation you describe; it's sometimes impossible for me to see or accept that anything else-any possibility-exists outside of that tunnel and the thoughts I have. It's not easy to navigate; something i try to do is question why I feel that way. I don't always find or accept the answers, but at least it gets me thinking in a more constructive/healthier way, and that helps gets me through. The hardest part is trying to not worry about it intensely; it's that intense focus that stops me from seeing anything else.

[Agora1 in reply to cashew78]

Great response cashew78 that I so understand. xx

[Unsure57]

They're all occupied with their own issues. Just be yourself

[EricJones in reply to Unsure57]

so you dont think they're worrying about my body language and if i'm moving strangely?

[Shnookie in reply to EricJones]

They R in their own worlds.

[EricJones in reply to Shnookie]

i just feel guilty...people keep telling me these things all the time...and i still keep asking questions about whether people are looking at me or telling that i'm paying attention to it....its so hard for my brain to accept and idk why

[Shnookie in reply to EricJones]

Please try not to feel guilty. When you do get a chance to see a therapist, U might want to discuss the possibility of meds to help lower your anxiety.

[EricJones in reply to Shnookie]

i have a psychiatrist who does a terrible job at increase meds or giving me the correct ones....thats why i'm relying on therapy

[Downski]

Hope things a bit better 2day my friend another day another challenge

[Lin1944]

Hi Eric, In UK we can only have group Therapy and usually young ones straight from University running the Classes. Never helped me at all. If we want to see a one to one therapist or Phsychiatrist we have to pay a lot of money as NHS can’t afford them.

Good luck x

[EricJones in reply to Lin1944]

you guys dont get the oppurtunity of having a therapist?

[Downski]

not really am trying at the moment but seems long way away!! NHS claims has no money I can’t afford private so just gotta wait

[EricJones in reply to Downski]

so what do you wait for? assistance from the government?

[Downski]

yes charities and helpers I trying to get help through them seems quickest way the now but still takin longtime when u feel shite each day!!

[EricJones in reply to Downski]

what do these charities do...find you a therapist?

[Downski]

at the moment they ment too b sorting me a plan to speak people therapy but only yesterday I spoke to them.u having a better day

[EricJones in reply to Downski]

not really no..still highly paranoid and worried