Depressed & Exhausted

[RottenRotties]

Hi, I'm new to this so please pardon any errors. I had a botched surgery on June 2019, Revision surgery on October 2019 and my 3rd on June 2021. I now have permanent neuropathy and a few other things. Since than, I've been incredibly depressed and always feel alone. I used to xtrain 28 miles per week, ski etc. Now I can't do anything that I used to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank You 🙂

[Ellamaye]

That is such a major adaptation of lifestyle for you. I totally understand why that would be a source of struggle and depression. You have acknowledged that and that will be your first step x I hope you have a team around you family friends doctors etc because us humans can come back from any hardship that is thrown at us . We can turn a negative into a positive x I'm sure you have a hard journey ahead. Please believe in yourself and of course reach out for help. HU is here x

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

Thank you so much for respondingI don't have a support system. My 18yo tries, but she's been through so much. I feel so much guilt. My husband is supportive, but it's obvious he's tired of it

I carry a massive bag of quilt for putting them through this. Our family is so separated now. Also, I have to have neck, shoulder and back surgery. I feel lost

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

I can relate in a way x my partner had a car accident in 2019 followed by a few spinal surgeries. He moved out after we had lived together for a hundred years . This stuff does take a toll on family. It's not your fault though like it wasn't my partners fault. We are together now and recognise that stuff was too difficult for us to deal with but we can still be a family. It's not impossible to get through this and be united on the other side x it's good you turned to HU because yes sometimes our nearest and dearest can't always understand or shoulder the burden x that's why this community exists x

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

Hi Ellamaye! Are you out there?

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

I'm here I've just been in my sad place for a couple of days x how are you?

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

Thank you for responding 😊 I'm sorry you're in your sad place, I'd give you a hug if I were there. I'm in my sad place too....more crappy medical stuff. I now have burning mouth syndrome....the plus 😂 there's no cure for it!!! So now I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

Burning mouth syndrome? Wow that does not sound like fun . I take it you're just dealing with that alone?

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

Yep....all by myself. I'm not crying "poor me," but it's just one more thing! How are you feeling?

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

I asked about all by yourself because I know you don't get support right now when you share x but you know you can share and get support from here so take advantage of that x I'm googling burning mouth syndrome right now x 🤣. I'm ok I just don't see my people anymore for my health reasons and occasions like easter are harder than an average Friday or Sunday 🙄

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

I did Google bms and I'm pissed off on your behalf. 😫

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

LOL 😝 what next? Maybe chopping it off? 🤔 Seriously, it's non-stop! Thank you for your pissness, I do appreciate the company.

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

What next? Has to be something good 🙏💪.

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

I'm getting an MRI on Friday. Does that count? 😆

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

No 😅. I challenge you to do something that makes you smile x

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

I found a 1,000 gallon drum of Novacain....I'm thinking one time a day will do the trick! I'm talking with you so there's a smile 😃

[RottenRotties in reply to RottenRotties]

Just a quick dip!

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

Well you just made my day by saying I made you smile x isn't novacane something dentist's use? 😅.

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

Yes! It's wonderful stuff. It numbs everything just like lidocaine. I figure if I take a quick neck to toe dip, nothing will hurt then! This might be the next new trend! 😁

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

You did not find a drum of novacain ? 🤣🤣

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

Seriously, I can buy the powder formula and mix it myself 👍

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

Shit.... I don't know if your blessed or in for more trouble 🙈. I suggest you post.. I found a drum of novacain and see what everyone else says 🤣🤣.I'm too mischievous to say the correct thing 🙈🤣

[RottenRotties in reply to Ellamaye]

I need some opinions please. I found a drum of NOVACAIN and would like to submerge my neck to toe. Just a quick dip, nothing fancy. Compare it to an icecream sundae. 🍨

It would be similar to someone pouring chocolate over you. And there's a bonus....it also cures hemorrhoids. 🍑 Would anyone try this?

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to RottenRotties]

No

[RottenRotties in reply to RottenRotties]

My phone lines are lighting up like a Christmas Tree🎄

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to RottenRotties]

how is it you stumble across an oil tanker of novacane, you’re obviously joking

[RottenRotties in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

No, I never said "oil tanker " I said drum.

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to RottenRotties]

oil drum

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to RottenRotties]

it is tank to be legit about it, they’re very large. and the tank alone is expensive

[RottenRotties in reply to litethatnevergoesout]

No, it's not tank. Tankards are very large. You see those on the highways. These can be purchased at Home Depot, etc. They come in plastic or metal. Some people use the metal ones as burn 🔥 pits.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to RottenRotties]

if you ship overseas Ille give my Harry styles a good rub and post about It

[RottenRotties in reply to Sillysausage234]

You got it! Rub a dub, dub. Wise decision 👌

[RottenRotties in reply to RottenRotties]

Hope you're having a great day!

[RottenRotties in reply to RottenRotties]

Meant for Sillysausage.

[RottenRotties]

I greatly appreciate you and this site Unless your going through these hardships, most don't understand. I really wish I could get through to my husband! When I have to go to the hospital, etc

right away he says "here we go again, you know they're not going to help". I feel that he has a lot of resent towards me. I have been asking him to go get therapy, and his reply is "I've looked, but haven't booked anything." I've been in therapy for

several months. I'll be changing to a different therapist due to his busy schedule. I'm so happy I met you 🤗

[tommy2toes in reply to RottenRotties]

Hi There:

Crusty old guy here. Reading about your husband’s comments, is there the possibility that he both loves you, but at the same time your own circumstances heave really bowled him over mentally? Might sound like some dumb questions but….

[Ellamaye in reply to tommy2toes]

Eloquently put 2toes 🤣 HU is safe space remember so yeah husband is probably having a hard time aswell and he can make his own post if he likes x 🤣

[RottenRotties in reply to tommy2toes]

Nice to meet you tommy2toes. I don't know? Actions speak louder than words and he's doing nothing. I would think that if it's affecting him so much he'd go and get Therapy. He promised he would. 3 months later and still nothing Im getting a bit resentful as he promised to seek help. Doing "nothing" doesn't exactly help the situation

[Ellamaye in reply to RottenRotties]

You can message me if you ever feel like talking. I'm sorry your husband doesn't have the patience required to deal with this right now. I hope he will get there x I can't say how things would have been if my situation was reversed and it was me that had the car accident . I do feel however that your dealing with alot and guilt on top of that can't be easy x

[RottenRotties]

Thank you Ellamaye ❤ I sincerely appreciate your offer.

[CLB1125]

hi welcome to the group. I understand the husband part. My husband’s attitude is get over it. He has a ligament injury that’s painful and it’s the end of the world. 🙄 I admire your previous record of 28 miles. I don’t know your limitations but have you thought about trying something else for exercise? Water aerobics? Or just walking the pool? I have neuropathy in my feet. And herniated discs in my back. Walking in the pool is something I can do.