Devastated

[Horselover54]

I had to say goodbye to my beloved dog & emotional support animal two days ago due to a tragic accident. The pain is unbearable. I cry constantly, can’t eat, have the shakes & a constant headache. The only time I’m at peace is when I’m sleeping & when I wake up, I wish I hadn’t. I spoke to my therapist & she wasn’t much help. Please help me learn how to get out of this emotional maelstrom I’m in. For any of you who know DBT - help me get out of emotional mind & in to wise mind!

[kenster1]

so sorry to hear about your beloved dog heaven has another furry friend.

[gajh]

I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

[melbrown]

I'm sorry for your lost... it's about 2 years since we found out our pup had cancer (& lost hom later that year). He was my best bud, so I can relate how you probably are feeling. Warm safe hugs.

[Beevee]

So sorry that you have lost your beloved dog which is extremely upsetting in anyone's book, let alone anxiety ridden people where all emotions are magnified because of their sensitised state. My advice is to let those emotions flow and do nothing to try and change them. They are exactly how they should be in your circumstances and pointless trying to change them. All emotions need to be felt to be released.

If you are sad, you cannot make yourself happy. If you are happy, you cannot make yourself sad. Emotions ebb and flow and we have little control over them.

Same with anxiety. Just leave it be and the storm will pass. Learn to accept any emotional state you find yourself in and it will pass without you needing to do anything.

I hope you find peace of mind and body.

Best wishes ❤️

[Hidden]

I am SO SORRY! I lost my beloved heart dog last year and I'm still not over it. Now my other dog has a liver problem and goes in for an ultrasound tomorrow. I'm preparing my mind for the worst instead of the best. I have to be prepared. I'm already melting down over it. I haven't taken the DBT stuff yet but I'm signed up to start on March 18th. I hope it will be helpful and I wish I had some tips that could help you know. All I know is that we have to feel the feelings and not ignore them or stuff them down. Cry as much as you need to. Find another dog lover to talk to who understands. Hugs!

[bonkers65]

I am so sorry. Losing a pet is very hard.

[CLB1125]

Im so sorry for your loss. Grieving a pet is the same as losing a family member. There are stages that we have to go through to heal. Let your heart lead the way. It’s ok to cry, scream, whatever helps you. We are here for you. I have lost many pets over my 65 years and it never gets any easier. We must go through the process. Some people hide all their pictures and things but I find it comforting to look up and see them. Maybe carry something of theirs with you for a while or get something like a worry stone you can put their name on. I find that helped me. Not a pet but a loved ones. Gentle hugs

Worry stone

[Agora1 in reply to CLB1125]

CLB1125, beautifully said xx

[CLB1125 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you

[ahwf]

hello, I’m so sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best right now 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[Midori]

Losing a beloved animal is like losing a child, and you grieve just as much. Grief is a strange beastie, it takes as long as it takes.

We are all different in our reactions to loss. Don't be afraid to cry; it really does help you over the early days when it seems overwhelming. Treat yourself kindly and gently, don't try to 'be strong', in my experience it makes things worse.

Another thing, take no notice of those who say 'Get over it' or' Its only a dog', Such people are dead to the love a pet brings.

Treat yourself gently, keep your memories alive of the fun you had together, and the pain will ease in time, Don't try to rush things.

Cheers, Midori

[Agora1]

Horselover54, I know your heart is broken in pieces. Be kind to yourself as you go

through the grieving process in losing your precious support animal.

Sending you my sympathy. xx

[KMBW]

Hello- I'm very sorry to hear of your loss, pets are our families!

Is it possible you are feeling guilt about the accident? Loss is difficult enough but when we have guilt associated with a loss or a loved one, it can lead to anxious feelings. If you are experiencing guilt, confront it then reject or accept it and realize you did good by your dog and need not feel guilty.

[catsrock]

I'm so very sorry about your dog. The one thing I can suggest is the book about grief called, "It's OK That You're Not OK," by Megan Devine. I've read a lot of books about grief and this one is the best I've found. It's not new, so you can probably get it at your library.

[Wildchipmunk]

I'm so sorry, sweetie. It might not seem like it, but you are going to be okay. I believe you'll be reunited with your sweet doggy one day and it'll be great. But until then, you have to take care of you! One day at a time. One minute if need be. Breathe out and breathe in. Be good to yourself. Reach out to friends and family and other animals. Hot tea, warm baths, cookies. Did you get it? I just sent you a hug by telepathy! Hold on tight. Better days are ahead!