Daily struggle

[Hippiedeb5150]

So my mom died Jan. 5th & we buried her a week later. I came home from that(out of state) to find my husband severely ill & had to 911 him to hospital. He made it thru the crisis but is not the same. He has many health problems & has been on dialysis for 2 years. I'm now going to be a FT caregiver to my 61 yo love of my life. He's very slow & needs a lotta help now. I had to resign from my PT job-very overwhelming. Anxiety is awful at times and starting to grieve my mom too. It overtakes my very being & I don't see light at the end of tunnel-at least not right now. I'm a woman of faith that's pretty damn weak in her faith right now. I'm just able to put 1 foot in front of the other. I have to slow way down cause he moves like a turtle & I'm going to have to get used to it. Really too much for me but I'ma keep trying. Thanx for letting me share this stuff.😘

[Arymretep]

Hi, so sorry to hear about your Mum, I lost mine over twenty years ago and still think of her and my Dad every day, now you have to take care of your husband no wonder you have anxiety, sometimes it seems we can’t cope with any more but we do, as the saying goes, this too will pass, I.m Sure your faith will help you through, take care

[Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Arymretep]

TY so much

[Hidden]

Hi Hippiedeb5150, I'm so sorry about your loss. Please take time to grieve and seek grief counseling if you need to. My Mom passed in 2013 and I went almost 2 years without grieving. I ended up having a nervous breakdown but finally went to Griefshare (you can find their meetings by going to their website) and it helped very much. I hope you can find some resources to help you take care of your husband. Some states have a VNA (Visiting Nurses Association). I went to a seminar recently on hospice and learned that it is not just for dying people. It is for people who need respite care at home. I always thought it was just for the dying. Please get help so you don't get burned out. Hugs, Barbara

[Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Hidden]

TY so much

[Notsosadanymore]

stay strong and stay positive. I am really sorry that you’re experiencing this. I can’t imagine what you are going through and I just wanted you to know that I’m really sorry that you’re hurting so badly right now and I wish I could make you feel better I really do. I’m so sorry for your loss and the struggles you are facing. Stay strong and keep the faith always trust in god he has a plan for all of us.

[Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Notsosadanymore]

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[Hidden]

Sending you much love and peace Hippiedeb5150 at this tough time x

[Hippiedeb5150 in reply to Hidden]

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[car67]

I’m so very sorry for your loss, my mum died in August 2023 and it cuts too deep so I feel your pain. You have so much going on, please take some time out for your self and reach out for support . In my prayers. 🙂

[Hippiedeb5150 in reply to car67]

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[corgi_fan817]

Hippiedeb5150, I am so sorry for your loss. You have a lot of challenges right now. As car67 said, try to get sometime for yourself. You have shown great faith by keeping moving forward by helping your husband.

You should always feel free to come online here and share your feelings.

[Hippiedeb5150 in reply to corgi_fan817]

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[Dolphin14]

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's very early on. Please allow yourself grieving time. It can be a long process.

You certainly have your hands full. Caretaking is tough job. It's a must that you find bits of time to yourself.

Maybe on dialysis days you can set aside some time?

We are here to support you

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