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Hello, so I struggle really bad with depression and anxiety been on a very long list of medication and nothing worked. I am now trying Wellbutrin at day 14 and it feels pointless. I’ve started breaking down into tears at work while driving constantly thinking about death and dying. I’m 32 years old and I have a good life and loving family decent job life truly isn’t that bad but I’m just so sad and miserable and I just want it to stop.

Anyway if anyone has a routine or takes some supplements or something that has helped you naturally feel better please let me know. I’m tired of crying like I’m at work crying right now writing this and I just need to gain control of myself and not be so weepy.

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Starrlight

Hi sorry you are sad. I talked to my psychiatrist recently who asked how often I cry and then put me on 2.5 mg abilify because I have bipolar along with this depression and anxiety. I would explain to your doc how you are feeling and try something new. So as far as natural goes, not sure maybe vitamins like magnesium there’s also DHDA for mood /stress and also 5-HTP promotes serotonin production and balances mood.

Best to you

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62BlackBirds

Hi :) My emotions are a struggle for me with my ADHD so I have recently been stuck in a cycle where i'm having the same problem. Walking down the hall and oops out of no where want to start bawling :( I've been through this several times over the years and for me now realize that it's something that will pass. That said, I do take Wellbutrin (Bupropion) when I experience these episodes and it works for me but it took years of trial and erroring and trying multiple anti depressants to find one that worked. Finding the right med that works is very tiring. Sorry you are experiencing this :(

I do agree though that you need to constantly advocate for yourself with your doctors and keep trying. I've been referred to a year long program that uses Dialectical Behavior Therapy and have been reading some about it and it looks very promising to me and will help me recognize negative thoughts but then move on from them. With my emotional dysregulation it's very tough.

Anyway, I'm just carrying on but I do have to also agree with the Magnesium supplement and would add D3. A lot of humans are very D3 deficient and it and it has helped me tremendously.

This is from webmd.com :

Symptoms of Vitamin D Deficiency

Vitamin D deficiency presents similar symptoms to those of depression:

Mood changes accompanied by overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, sadness, and hopelessness

Fatigue

Forgetfulness

Loss of interest in activities that previously sparked excitement

Suicidal thoughts

Anxiety

Loss of appetite

Excessive weight loss or gain

Trouble sleeping

It's a simple blood test to check Vitamin D levels.

Glad you are here and good luck to you :)

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Barbloki in reply to 62BlackBirds

Hi 62BlackBirds, I was just referred to a DBT program on Thursday when I met with my therapist. I called the place yesterday and left a message and they called me back but I missed the call because I was sleeping. I seem to sleep alot to avoid life. I'm full of regrets for bad decisions I've made and I can't seem to let it go and move on. I will call the DBT people back on Monday and see what it's all about. Have you tried the DBT yet?

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62BlackBirds in reply to Barbloki

Unfortunately I don’t think the referral was made yet or the place I’m being referred to hasn’t called yet. I don’t have an appointment yet for a couple of weeks and will ask the therapist about it then. Have you started the DBT?

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Barbloki in reply to 62BlackBirds

My DBT starts March 18th. I'm a little nervous at trying yet another thing to fix me. I hope this can help. I'm 61 and tired of the fight. How are you doing?

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corgi_fan817

I am taking wellbutrin. I will say it took about 3-4 weeks before it really kicked in. The first 10 days were problematic because my dose was too low (150 mg)...going to 300 mg helped.

I can recall having tough times at the point you are at. Hopefully, you will feel the effects of the medication soon. I would sometimes just cry with no particular reason. I would cry at work too. I used to hide in the corner of my office and cry hoping no one would see me.

Before depression I had a good life too. In a way, I still do, but things are different. Thinking about your family and good life can make you weepy. It did for me. I had to hold back tears at a meeting once when someone casually asked me, "how are you doing?" That was before the wellbutrin kicked in.

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Rocknrollmom

I'm so sorry you are struggling so much. I know lots of meds take awhile to work. If you feel you've given the Welbutrin enough time to work, maybe talk to your doctor about something else or an add on. Take care.

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Peacely

What reasons make you so sad? What do you find brings you joy and hope?

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Notsosadanymore in reply to Peacely

I think about death daily and everything makes me think about how time is flying by and that person is going to die soon. Finding joy and hope honestly very little if anything. I love my family very much and would do anything for them. I just don’t find joy in much of anything. I don’t even know what hope looks like anymore.

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Peacely in reply to Notsosadanymore

If you think about death constantly that may be a form of obsessive compulsive thinking and targeting your therapy towards obsessive thoughts and depression may help u more than just treating depression alone. A therapist can discuss with you why death makes you so sad and uncomfortable. I have worked in a nursing home for 25 years and have seen death many times and it is not something anyone can control so why live just to think about death thats not living life its just not dying.I also recently read about how monks practice and view acceptance to bring them peace in this lifetime despite what awaits all of us at the end. Sometimes I like to read about how people have near death exper a d bone back, they tell of their experience bringing them peace and joy from what they see beyond here. Lastly I cling to my faith in Jesus Christ. The scriptures are full information on how he conquered death and the promises he blesses us with when we die and can have hope in as we live this crazy life.

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lauralidia

I’m sorry you are going through a hard time.I remember being on Wellbutrin after trying SSRI’s and it allowed me to feel my feelings again and there was a lot of crying.But because I’m a woman is more acceptable for me to cry so I didn’t worry that much about it.Maybe you are finally grieving events that had happened in your past,your life sounds good and balanced now so maybe you feel safe enough to cry.Please don’t look at it as a bad thing,your heart is starting to thaw.Try a kindness routine for yourself,your favorite food,your favorite walk in the park/woods,talk to your favorite old auntie/friend/teacher,a good book,a hot bath,cozy blanket.Hope you’ll feel better

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Ryanlion

Crying is healing. It could be a good idea to seek out a therapist to explore what's behind the crying. It could be grief that has been held in since childhood and is bursting out now. This is what happened to me. Just a suggestion.

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Notsosadanymore in reply to Ryanlion

I will definitely do this. I need to obtain mental peace. I’m at my breaking point.

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CLB1125

I have been on Wellbutrin for years. It does take time for it to fully get into your system. I would give it at least a month to fully kick in. If it hasn't improved how you're feeling check with your dr . He may need to increase it or sometimes they will add a different antidepressant to help it. In the mean time we are here to talk to. A little bright side to crying, my therapist said crying removes toxins from your body and brings peace. That's why we feel tired after a good cry.

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Barbloki

Hi, I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. You have described my life perfectly. I wonder why there are so many of us feeling this way? What are we doing wrong? What are we missing? Are we lacking a vitamin or nutrient? Eating a wrong food? Not eating the right food? I have tried so many different antidepressants and some had horrible side effects and some didn't do anything. I really don't think there is a pill to fix me. I think it's something in my brain. My therapist says it's years of build up of trauma that I have never dealt with. Every little thing that has happened is just stacked up in my brain and it swirls around and around. I have a good life, no financial problems, no major health problems, no specific external reasons to be so depressed and anxiety and weepy. My biggest issue is being lonely. We moved to a new town in March and I'm having a hard time getting plugged into people. All I have is my introvert/recluse husband and he works from home so he's on the phone all day. I'm alone. I'm grateful to have found this online group and to know that I'm not the only one with these feelings. Now I just wish we could all find the fix for it. I hope you are feeling better today.

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Noodlelover85

you’re not alone. I thought I had a good hold of my depression and anxiety but as I’ve weaned off of all other self medicating drugs I have been struggling with staying afloat. I feel guilt and shame daily for not being able to function like I want to. It’s very frustrating.

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