New here - Tough start to the year

[Saybyebye]

Hi there,

I am new here, I'm a 30 soon to be 31 year old woman who has suffered from Anxiety, overthinking and depression on and off for as long as I can remember.

Usually I can handle it all., but lately things have been tough and they are about to get worse. i am always struggling with money, had an ex that left me in dept and sadly I am still paying it off by having 2 jobs. which means I leave my house at 6am and don't come home until 9pm. I am exhausted, but I am to worried about money and the debt to quit one of the jobs.

It doesn't help that the main job I have I hate, its like working in a prison, every tiny move gets monitored, we have to take holiday for GP appointments, and home emergencies and if you don't have holiday then you will take it unpaid.

I had to take the Christmas days off as unpaid, as with my move and appointments I didn't have any leave left and now in January I will not get paid enough to cover my bills, even with the 2nd job.

Then in February my partners Divorce will go through and his ex and kids need to move out of the house and he needs to move in his things into our house which will cost a lot of time, money and stress. I don't think its going to be a simple process as I am pretty sure his ex wife doesn't have a new place to go yet, she is also not working so not sure if she things he has to pay her rent for the rest of her/his time.

I am sitting at work at the moment and I just feel sick, I don't know how to make things work and I just feel lost and hopeless, I just really want this debt to be gone and then for things to run smoothly with my partner so we can get a fresh start.

Any tips, anything at all, would be much appriciated

[Dolphin14]

Hi

Welcome to our community. You have a lot going there no wonder you are stressed out.

I'm confused. I see you on another site and you mentioned you are married? I got lost somewhere I think which is not uncommon for me lol

I'm sorry if I read it wrong.

🐬

[Saybyebye in reply to Dolphin14]

i am engaged yes, but not married, and no problem, I know my situation can be a bit confusing

[Dolphin14 in reply to Saybyebye]

Thank you for clarfying

You will find this community very supportive.

[LadyZen]

Welcome. I hope you find the support you need here. Relationships and finances can be tough.

[Saybyebye in reply to LadyZen]

Thank you x

[Hippiedeb5150]

Sounds like a lot going on for you. Understand the money situation. You have a lot on your plate & working 2 jobs as well takes it's toll im sure. Hang in there & try to think positively if u can. One day- one hour-one minute at a time is the only way I can stay halfway sane. Try to take just today & not jump too far ahead(so hard to do)glad you are with us here. Welcome & we understand. Hope your day is good.