This is us

[mizzou7016]

Found this out the hard way

[LadyZen]

Well, I for one love that you set boundaries. So you can change that phrase to everyone minus me. Good for you I say!

[mizzou7016 in reply to LadyZen]

Yes ma'am....but you respect the boundaries and don't try to move them.....a lot of people don't

[DieselDad]

One thing that I've found that has really helped me deal with this is carefully choosing the wording that I use. I get defensive responses when I say "I'm setting a boundary..." and softer replies when I say "I'm advocating for myself...." It seems to help them understand where I'm coming from and less like an attack.

M-I-Z

[litethatnevergoesout in reply to DieselDad]

good examples. I like saying ‘no’ ‘nope’ ‘stop’.

‘No’ does the trick with maybe a slow head shake for those that need picture and sound. boundaries were difficult to set for me. I stopped being creative or appeasing when I found the power of the word no.

[Vonus5591]

With the Care Home my nonverbal/can't talk son is at - sometimes they expect us to pay for the other students and that is not on with his disability benefit

[CLB1125]

sounds like my whole life ☹️

[bethelbee]

Not totally true. People may respect you more if you set boundaries. Those that 'hate you' when you set them aren't worth being around..

[mizzou7016 in reply to bethelbee]

and under normal circumstances, under normal situations, I would agree.....however at work I don't have a choice as to who I am around

[bethelbee in reply to mizzou7016]

That can be tough....