Separation Anxiety Help

[Bluegiraffe26]

Hi everyone! I just joined this group. So I grew up with separation anxiety and I’ve had it my whole life. When I was young, I never wanted to go to school. My dad had to talk me into going every single day and reassured me I would be okay. This further lead me into my teenage years where I never wanted to stay at my friends houses. I soon got over all of that, enjoyed going to school, but I never quite got over having sleepovers until I had a couple of boyfriends and I was old enough to spend the night. I wanted to be with them all the time so it only made sense to stay over with them. I moved in with my boyfriend a couple days ago who is absolutely amazing and very supportive. I’ve been so excited about moving in together and buying stuff for our new place made me even more excited. I always kept my separation anxiety in the back of my mind. It wasn’t until my parents left the day that I moved in that it hit me. It has been extremely hard. My anxiety is at an all time high. I’m crying all the time. I’m waking up with a pit in my stomach and it just doesn’t feel like “home.” I’m missing the comfort of my home so badly even though I love being with my boyfriend. Everyone is saying it takes time, but I just feel so awful and alone and it’s making me even more sad that my boyfriend is watching me live like this. Im barely hungry (I always get this way when I’m anxious). I can talk to him and he definitely understands, but I just want all of this anxiety to go away so I can live comfortably. My parents are also being supportive, FaceTiming me when they can. I know this will only be the 3rd night but I just really hope this gets easier. I hate to live uncomfortable.

[LoveforAll41]

Hi Bluegiraffe! Congrats on making it to this point! That you have made it through life and to this point with moving out shows that you have done extremely well I think. I think that you will make it through this as you have other things in the past.

I think that this shows how much you value your home with your family and security there. I also think that this is a time that you can use to grow closer with your boyfriend as your primary home becomes the place with him. Of course your home with your immediate family will always be your home as well. I wish you peace, hope, and strength.

[mizzou7016]

you have to give it time....your parents are only a phone call away.....I talk to my parents at least once a day...right now it is new and out of your comfort zone.....you will adjust and adapt

[catsrock]

Welcome to the group! Let us know how it's going and if it starts getting easier - fingers crossed!🤞