Stuck 😞😕

[ashleybakerr01]

I feel like I should be doing better and more with my life. People who are younger than me, have their life's better together. I'm losing my apartment soon, due to letting my mental health take over me. I have to re-home my precious kitties, which is heartbreaking to me 😞. I feel like I've failed them and everyone around me. I'm just falling behind in life and I'm not sure where to start back up. Any advice is welcomed and muchly appreciated.I just needed to rant. Thanks for listening

[davidthecoder]

Hi Ashley,

Just wanted to show some support. When you say "people that are younger than me have their lives better together", it might not be true. But I used to feel this way all of the time when I used social media. It seemed like literally everyone was doing better than me, but it is a false reality where people tend to only talk about the good things in their lives publicly, and hide the struggles out of fear of being labeled "weak".

You are not weak, you are strong. Too express yourself in this way, is a sign of courage. And that is why I believe you will overcome this.

Regarding your cats, is there anyone you know that can temporarily take care of them while you overcome the current situation?

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to davidthecoder]

Sadly, no one can take them. I've asked what friends and family I could think of 😞. Thank you for showing kindness and support and responding to my post. I appreciate you

[mizzou7016]

I've been sharing this a lot lately....just work on what you can each day.....one detail at a time...

a friendly reminder

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to mizzou7016]

I love this 💕

[ladybyrd in reply to mizzou7016]

Words if wisdom

[ashleybakerr01]

Wow thank you for the response. That actually helped me a good bit

[Hidden]

fantastic advice and you are so right

[Hidden]

Don’t be so hard on yourself and take time for yourself. You can turn this around. Real friends will always be there for you and the rest are not important. As for comparing to others which is so easy to …don’t. This is your life, take back your control. Prioritise the basics like your mental health, money, food and a roof over your head then build your happiness around that. Sorry about the kitties and they will never judge you. Put you first! Good luck Ashleybakerr01 You can do this!!!!!

[ladybyrd in reply to Hidden]

Great post!

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[ladybyrd]

Great advice, so true.

[ladybyrd]

I hear your pain through your words. Be good to yourself, you have a chance to start anew again. It may look different than what your use too, but it can be better. One step at a time, one moment at a time.

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to ladybyrd]

Thank you all so much for the kind responses

[catsrock]

Hi Ashley, I totally get this feeling, but you are so young and have plenty of time to accomplish whatever you decide to do. Depression is messing with your thought processes - at least that's what it does to me - and telling you you have failed. But you haven't. Everyone's life has it's own timeline and lots of people accomplish things when they start at 40 or later. I'm very sorry about rehoming your kitty, that's hard.

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to catsrock]

I had to re-home them earlier 💔. My hearts shattered at the moment 😭.

[catsrock in reply to ashleybakerr01]

I'm so sorry.

[ashleybakerr01 in reply to catsrock]

It's ok..I'll manage

[pamb67 in reply to ashleybakerr01]

Sending u a big hug 🫂

[AnaRio]

i understand this feeling. It’s an introduction of my life but I’m 37.

[BedBug]

Don't be so hard on yourself. Every one is different. Take one step at a time. Take a negative issue and find a positive in it. Build on this. It will get better. This support group really helps. Take care.

[Hidden]

There are so many beautiful healthy experiences to enjoy in this world that don’t cost the earth or anything. Take each day as it comes, self care is all about taking time out for yourself not the chores …which I often do

[pamb67]

Is there anyway someone could look after ur kitties till u get straight. Your so young so u can restart ur life and things will get better given time and some help and support. Be kind to ourself I'm sure ur doing ur best 💙