Hating myself for hating others

[Lookingforhope20100]

I feel like a real jerk. My brother (B) just got engaged to his long-time girlfriend (GF), and everyone is so happy, but don't get me wrong, I'm happy too, but I'm also jealous. Everyone is making a huge deal out of it... but when I got engaged, it seemed like no one cared. They don't like, scratch that. They hate my fiance (F). Granted, he doesn't like them either, but that's a story on its own, but the worst part is I didn't even get to tell my family B did and ruined my moment, and I hate him for that. I wanted to ruin his like he did mine, but I took the high road. anyways I'm just upset because they are posting it everywhere and gushing over the bride-to-be they didn't do any of that for me GF is well loved in the family and was welcomed F wasn't even given a chance so am I a jerk for not jumping for joy. they are blaming me and telling me I'm in the wrong for feeling this way.

[CLB1125]

Im sorry for your pain. I know this scenario all too well. You are a better person for taking the high road. It shows your character. You are not wrong for feeling the way you do. But don’t let it interfere with your relationship with your F. Let them guah over B and his wife. Just go about your life with F and enjoy each other.

[scansnap]

I understand the situation that you are in and that you feel very angry. You could use some cognitive behavioral therapy to help you deal with your thoughts that are making you feel angry. However, the fact is that everyone becomes angry at times, and that you should not blame yourself for feeling angry; you may be angry at the situation, but don’t let that make you angry at yourself. You are hurting yourself more than anyone else.