So I was living in Miami by myself and cuz of visa paperwork I had to move to argentina with my parents and we got lockdown by the pandemic so I’ve been here since march2020, here in South America vaccination is not going well, we don’t have many vaccines. My parents are elders and I’ve been living in with so much anxiety cuz I feel I need to protect them but at the same time I can’t control their lives. Last may my mom and I got Covid thankfully she had the first shot and we didn’t have severe symptoms, but after Covid I’ve been feeling even worst, now I’m fully medicated and feel even more stressed and anxious. My dad who is 73 is the only one in the house that has had the two shots, because these are given by the government, you can’t choose how or when or anything. My mom received her first shot early April and STILL hasn’t had the second. And only last week it was time for me to get my first shot. I just feel I need to find people that are caregivers for older parents how do they deal with the fear or something happening cuz of their age. I feel so in charge and so responsible but they want to go out they want to see people and sometimes I can’t control that. Please if you’re going through the same would love to talk, I feel so alone and sad and helpless.
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Honestly, I'm not sure I can relate personally but I hear you. I was overwhelmed with what I needed to do when I was caring for my elderly grandmother and on top of my own nervous issues developed a case of caretaker's fatigue, so I guess I can appreciate the pressure you feel caring for your parents.
Remember to take time for yourself and care for your own needs so you can be healthy enough to help those around you.
Honestly , I can relate. Being the able body person sucks. On top of that it’s emotionally draining because your also acting as their therapist. It’s like there isn’t enough meds to get you through and suppress feelings.
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If I don’t learn to give myself some self care I’m going to be in trouble. So I really recommend trying that. I’m at the point that if I spend to much time on their needs I start needing more medication just to get me through the day. A person can only suppress so much. So I’m trying alternative activities such as Art and Tai Chi. Always give yourself time away from the situation.
Right now I am washing dishes and found out that my Mother just hid half the silverware. It’s like when does the insanity end.
My parents are older than yours but I can definitely relate.
You know how people talk about making themselves anxious over fake scenarios . I would love if my brain had time to do that. I’m too busy listening to other peoples fake scenarios and talking them down. I have all of the anxiety but none of the fake scenarios for myself.
I tried therapy for myself but I have hard time getting people to really listen to me. It’s like they already have preconceived notions. The solutions they give are just either or solutions. I don’t need more either or solutions . Life isn’t either or. I’m tired of people saying either or.
I feel the same way they “listen” but they really don’t, and I feel so isolated sometimes. Thanks so much for your kind words and support!
Life is about compromise not either or.
The moment someone gives me an either or solution, my brain has already left the building. Somethings just aren’t that easy. I wish they were. It would save the human race so much time.
My brain will literally glare at someone who gives me an either or solution and walk out of the room. Going out the door swearing to itself and sit in the car waiting for the body to return.
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