Fear and Pride

[Zhanya]

I’m having a difficult time asking for help. I’m an adult who has moved to a small town to help my elderly Mom. I do not have my license to drive. I’m working on getting this. I need to run errands so I always need to ask a family acquaintance for assistance. I struggle to ask for help. I always feel like an inconvenience. I need this license, clearly. I do not understand what is holding me back. It’s not so much the fear anymore. I have forgiven people, no longer see myself as a victim in certain family situations. I can safely say I desire this skill. I just needed to post because I’m so close to achieving this. It’s just me who is holding me back. I’m just trying push on through my fear. I’m not seeking answers as much as I am trying to unstick myself. *sigh*

[Thankfulforhelp22]

We all get stuck. You can do this and clearly want to. You will be so proud of yourself when you accomplish this. Focus on that.

Everybody needs help sometimes; at times we need a lot. Folks are likely not as bothered by your asking as you think.

[Zhanya in reply to Thankfulforhelp22]

I appreciate the thoughtful feedback. Thank you.

[LadyZen]

You sound like you're very close. You can do it!

[Zhanya in reply to LadyZen]

Thank you so much for the kind words.

[LoveforAll41]

Hi Zhanya, I have the same issue with this with school. I could just buckle down and get it done... the pros outweigh the cons by far. It is not a "have to" it genuinely is an I "want to" thing and I still struggle. Understanding more from therapy about why I have so much anxiety around money/school helps me have more compassion for myself. I hope you can have some compassion for yourself Zhanya. Anxiety means that you care about something, and it is great to have a healthy amount of worry and caution around driving. I think that will make you a good safe driver. I wish you peace, hope, and strength.

[Zhanya in reply to LoveforAll41]

I appreciate your words. I want to be a safe driver more than anything. All the best with your goals as well. You can do this. 👊

[catsrock]

I know you can do this. Someone once told me if something seems overwhelming, break it down into the smallest steps possible and then break it down some more if those still feel too big. I also get overwhelmed easily and am convinced it's part of my depression, so just know there are others here who get what you're going through.

[Zhanya in reply to catsrock]

I appreciate your kindness. Small steps is a great reminder.