Terrified of Starting New Job

[headlikeahole]

Hello everyone

I’ve been applying to some part time seasonal jobs, as my long distance boyfriend and I have plans to visit for a while in just a few months, so I do not want to commit to something I will have to quit soon.

I am absolutely fucking terrified. I’m kinda on a time limit to secure something so what if no one hires me? What if I fail? What if I’m a disappointment to everyone around me?

I actually have a phone interview tomorrow so I really hope that works out.

I almost thought about backing out and quitting the job search for now but that makes me feel like an absolute failure. I know that I need to force myself. I know that I will come out of this a less anxious person.

I know that it’s normal to be scared for your first job, I know you get used to it after a few days, just like starting high school. So many things have been stressing me out lately on top of this and I just feel miserable. I’m tired of feeling like this. How the hell can I cope? I feel ill typing this. I don’t know what to do with myself. The fear is almost constant and I don’t have an appetite.

[P1987]

what makes you afraid of the interview the most? When I had to do my first interview, and I had not worked for almost 10 years. I was very nervous, when I realize that I wasn’t going to be doing my interview in person, that made things a bit better for me . That was a bit of an advantage to have, no having to go into the office. So what I did is wrote down any possible questions the interviewer would ask me and then answer them out loud to see how I would sound answering them. Also, I would write down any questions I would be asking them. And you can look those up on the Internet . Like, what would be really great questions to ask an interviewer. And then type in the job type that you are trying to get hired for. I know that you’re really nervous, like you said. But when I did this practicing. It really helped me a lot because I have severe anxiety. keep in mind, you don’t have to go into the office and you get to do that on the phone.

[headlikeahole in reply to P1987]

I’m sorry for the misunderstanding, I’m not really scared about the interview. I’m scared about starting something new I guess. But I also don’t know what I’m scared of. I just hate feeling like this.

[Starrlight in reply to headlikeahole]

Maybe the fear is of the unknown with possibly something bad happening?

[headlikeahole in reply to Starrlight]

I think you are right. I want to learn how to manage this feeling. I don’t think I’ve had a day without terrible anxiety in close to a month.

[P1987 in reply to headlikeahole]

I can understand that. Feeling overwhelmed and stepping into a new door you’re about to open. Having fear over a new opportunity. maybe you’re scared, you’ll like it so much you wanna stay 🙂, that type of scared. do you know what I do when I hate that scared feeling? I count from one to 10. And when I get to number eight, I punch the air 1234567, punch the air 910.! Nice good jabs! 😊 let me know how things go! I would love to know how the interview went!

[headlikeahole in reply to P1987]

I’ll let you know!

[Hidden in reply to P1987]

that’s good advice that I will keep in mind for my next interview, thank you

[Kevo1]

Hi headlikeahole, I really can empathise with you. I've suffered this type anxiety all my life. My therapist said I see people as a threat, and going into new environment like a work place triggers it. I have found it really difficult to get ontop of, except that once you have settled in, it gets easier. I have to move to another job location same company though, and it's causing me sleepless nights, anxiety etc. Be strong and give yourself a chance. Don't let it do to you what it's done to me. You can do it

[headlikeahole in reply to Kevo1]

I have faith in you! You are stronger than your anxiety. I know it. We can do this

[Agora1]

Hi headlikeahole, you know we are all afraid of changes in our lives but if we don't

try, we stay stagnant and go nowhere. This actually is the best time of the year to

get a part time job and make some money to see your boyfriend.

Holiday workers are always needed this time of year.

I use to love working during these several weeks., At the Mall, working with

Santa and the children waiting to see him. I hope you find something not only

fulfilling but fun to do. Good Luck Let us know xx